Having been a young man once who did not get married till his early 30s. I can tell you unashamedly that thinking was rarely part of the equation except to think of what to say or do that would help grease the wheels to make it happen.
It was this biological imperative that drove me from my church at around age 16. If Star Wars has taught me anything. There is a FORCE that drives the universe, and for good or ill it exists just below the waist.
I hear you.