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To: RedBloodedAmerican
"Or someone who wanted to take over FR from Jim, and continues do so?"

Hardly. As far as I can tell it was more like a good man who was extremely devoted to FR who has a policy and personality conflict with 2 moderators he believed over the top. That's all. He is dismayed by his perception of the direction of FR as I once was about the leadership of the real world FR activities.

As a real world friend, I believe Badjoe's intentions are beyond reproach. However, at this point, I wish that he would drop it (and have asked him so).

422 posted on 10/10/2003 6:27:40 PM PDT by A Navy Vet (government is the problem, not the solution!)
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To: A Navy Vet
As a real world friend, I believe Badjoe's intentions are beyond reproach. However, at this point, I wish that he would drop it (and have asked him so).


Honorable post. But....when the 'intentions' of the helper.....conflict with the 'intentions' of the owner...can the outcome be in doubt?
432 posted on 10/10/2003 6:31:54 PM PDT by justshe
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To: A Navy Vet
However, at this point, I wish that he would drop it (and have asked him so).

He won't.

433 posted on 10/10/2003 6:32:14 PM PDT by Howlin
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To: A Navy Vet
Hardly. As far as I can tell it was more like a good man who was extremely devoted to FR who has a policy and personality conflict with 2 moderators he believed over the top. That's all.

What you say may well be true, but I don't agree that "that's all" there is to it.

I've watched all this from the sidelines, but it seems to me that regardless of his undisputed good points, BadJoe's main problem appears to be that his personality type is the one best known as "Drama Queen". (Despite the name, there are plenty of male DQs.)

DQs thrive on the adrenaline of having a life filled with turmoil, and if it doesn't occur naturally, they'll manufacture some. For example, a disagreement isn't something to be resolved, it's an Epic Fight that allows them to play the hero riding a noble steed into the battle against evil that must be vanquished. Things that most people would take as minor slights and annoyances, soon forgotten, are to the DQ unforgivable insults and betrayals. They can't just be a cog in a larger process, they have to be one of the Star Attractions, without whom the entire enterprise would crash to the ground at any moment. Every problem is a crisis, every obstacle a conspiracy, every bit of good news an overwhelming victory. And they always must be at the center of attention, the star of the soap opera which is their life.

The poster child for DQs is Scarlett O'Hara.

Not content to be merely ordinary, DQs often do truly achieve big things and tenaciously follow lofty ideals. But they can be hell to try to get along with on a longterm basis. At first they can be greatly dedicated to the "best friend they ever had". But after a while, not only is the constant drama hard on the nerves if you're not of the same personality type, but it's all too easy for an ordinary bit of friction to be overdramatized into a Great Falling Out, then things can get ugly (at least for the baffled ex-friend suffering from a case of mental whiplash -- the DQ *thrives* on the agitation). And the cycle can frequently repeat, since "break up to make up" and "make up to break up" always keeps the drama going.

The poem "Drama Queen" was written with a female in mind, but it certainly captures the flavor.

1,013 posted on 10/11/2003 2:03:31 AM PDT by Ichneumon
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