I have a brother in Christ going through a divorce right now because of an unfaithful wife. He found out about her infidelity months ago and confronted her. She claimed to have regretted the “mistake” and promised to break it off. He later finds out that she had no intention of ending the affair and used the time to rack up debt and empty some joint accounts.
He is devastated. They have three teenage children who are torn in their feelings towards their parents. As far as I know he did all the right things - made his family a priority in his time, worked out and kept in shape, made a lot of money and attended church and bible study regularly. She was a stay at home mom who didn’t stay at home. She claims she got bored.
Very sad.
I’ve heard of a NUMBER of similar stories to yours from my parents that go to one of the most popular churches in their town (~10-15k ppl go there)
A very difficult situation, but his best play upon discovery is to send her packing.
It’s all fun & games until real consequences are enforced. His first (and last) mistake was accepting her initial excuses.
They might have had a chance if she was served with divorce papers at work or at home (or at Church). As for me, it’s not worth the hard work to put a relationship back together with a cheater. It’s just a bad decision.
Will he pursue custody?
Will he get the home?
Advise him to not move out of his home. It will always be there for the children to return to, and he may even get custody (and child support) as they may choose to stay there, at that age. Make sure he gets a shark lawyer. The family law system is absolutely tyrannical, but he has no choice.