Since 1990, notes the psychoanalyst and writer, the rate of married women who report they’ve been unfaithful has increased by 40 percent, while the rate among men has remained the same.
From "How to Lie With Statistics" I understand this writer is trying to make a small number look large. An increase of 40% can be 2 out of a hundred changing to 3 out of a hundred. So, if 4 of a hundred cheated in a 1990 survey and now 27 years later 5.6 cheat, that is a 40% increase.
On the downside of their sexual market value, their hypergamy internal switch kicked in and they latched on to a Beta male for a decent cash flow.
His boring life of working hard to support her and her family are not enough to stop love for the *ock carousal.
I guarentee I will never be cheated on by my wife.
That’s because I refuse to marry anyone.
Part of it is propinquity. So much of the day, today’s husbands and wives are separated and surrounded by possibly more interesting seeming people. When women were home with kids, there weren’t many opportunities to bond with new men. And the new men seem more interested than the busy husband. I can see how it starts. Same way the men’s affairs do.
Back in the early 20th century, it would have been wrong for a salesman enter a woman’s home when she wasn’t home alone. The appearance of impropriety was huge. Now there is zero care about it, cops being stuck in a car together all day, no one ever thinks that might be a problem. And millions of people in offices are yoked together for lunches, late nights. DUH.
I have one friend who is unfaithful to the husband she claims not to like. But she likes the luxury vacations, the good schools her kids are in, because of his salary. And her husband travels a lot so she doesn’t care what he does on his trips, because she has her other guy. Who is as much of a jerk as her husband if not more. It’s not pleasant to see. And the kids would be devastated if they knew.
I have a brother in Christ going through a divorce right now because of an unfaithful wife. He found out about her infidelity months ago and confronted her. She claimed to have regretted the “mistake” and promised to break it off. He later finds out that she had no intention of ending the affair and used the time to rack up debt and empty some joint accounts.
He is devastated. They have three teenage children who are torn in their feelings towards their parents. As far as I know he did all the right things - made his family a priority in his time, worked out and kept in shape, made a lot of money and attended church and bible study regularly. She was a stay at home mom who didn’t stay at home. She claims she got bored.
Very sad.
It’s not feminism, folks. And morality isn’t probative as much as we like to think.
I think it’s a combination of having an opportunity with someone a person finds attractive & sexually appealing, the calculated probability of success without exposure, and the calculated probability of minimizing it & winning forgiveness without life-altering incident.
I think in many instances, the truthful answer to “why” is “it seemed like a good idea at the time.” He or she will be wrong, but it probaby did seem like a good idea at the time.
I think establishing & holding on to strong boundaries is the best defense against these situations.
I know my analysis is unpopular, but I’m sticking with it.
Without reading the article, it will probably state how it’s justified because the husbands are failing in some way or other.