I am sorry to hear that. I have friends that are baptized Catholic, but gave up their faith and have died. It bothers me. I am sure that there are some Catholics that did not make it to Heaven. We all have the ability to follow God’s will - it is our choice. Again, God is the judge, not us.
The Catholic Church has both saints and sinners, but why do the teachings upset you?
Not unless one is born of the Spirit and has the indwelling presence of the Holy Spirit in their lives.
The unregenerate are slaves to sin. It's what they do. It comes naturally to them and they don't have the choice to obey God.
They only THINK they do because the enemy has lied to their minds and told them that they do.