That's love. And you can't make somebody love you against their will.
"I am sought of them that asked not for me
You get forced love from that? Hmm.
Paul was murdering Christians when God "forced Himself" on him.
That's what it takes to turn us from our own reflection to the face of God.
If you think you are doing the turning, you are detracting from the grace that belongs to God alone.