Good example of how the Lord did reach out to the Gentiles; I think that we would all agree that His mission was primarily to the Jews. I still think that He first sent his disciples to the Jews because a: they were primarily Jewish and could speak the language, knew the customs, and could convince the peoples that they knew more easily, b: they could build up a base at home that they could launch from, and c: it gave them practice before they were sent out into the whole world.
I've followed some of your discussion and agree in that He did reach out to Gentiles - His salvation is open to all. But, I find a difference in who you refer to as "Jews". My understanding is that He was sent unto the House of Israel, His lost sheep. They are Hebrews, but not Jews. The tribe of Judah are those that carry that name. 10 of the other tribes, at times referred to as the "10 lost tribes" are the House of Israel.
I don't think it's a small point as so much of prophecy is written to the 2 distinct groups.
I know that Jesus came to the Jews first. After all, they were the covenant people. But that doesn't mean that the Gentiles were to be excluded from salvation!