Some people's calling becomes their life. Mary is one such person. She devoted her entire life to God. That much is clear.
Mary was pure and undefiled (in the sanctified sense that you are posing) ... when she offered herself to God for His purpose. Afterwards, God left her with us ... as a continuing blessing to us ... to Joseph, to Jesus, etc.
Some people's calling becomes their life. Mary is one such person. She devoted her entire life to God. That much is clear.
So ... Mary was not a wife ... to Joseph ?