Skip to comments.Men--It's in Their Nature
Posted on 07/31/2003 6:16:54 AM PDT by Valin
This past spring, my son spent a month in Israel with his senior class. Only one activity disappointed him. While camping in the Negev Desert, special counselors from a progressive-socialist kibbutz paid a visit and led the students through a sensitivity exercise. The students were told to walk out into the desert until they were completely alone. The counselors (mostly American-born) supplied them with a pencil, paper, matches, and a candle and instructed them to absorb the quiet calm of the desert, to record their feelings, and to find themselves.
The girls happily complied. Most of the boys did not. They scattered into the desert, quickly became bored, and sought out each others company. Then they threw the pencils and paper into a pile, and used the candles and matches to start a little bonfire. The boys loved it; the sensitivity trainers were horrified. They viewed the boys behavior as an expression of primitive violencea lethal masculinity straight from The Lord of the Flies. Later in the evening, the students sat in a circle while the girls read their impassioned reactions to the haunting loneliness of the desert; the boys could barely suppress laughterconfirming once again the worst fears of the sensitivity trainers.
Gender equity experts in Americas schools, universities, government agencies, and major womens groups would share the distress of the kibbutz counselors, having spent more than a decade trying to resocialize boys away from toxic masculinity. In a great number of American schools, gender reformers have succeeded in expunging many activities that young boys enjoy: dodge ball, cops and robbers, reading or listening to stories about battles and war heroes. A daycare center in North Carolina was censured by the State Division of Child Development for letting boys play with two-inch green Army men. The division director described the toys as potentially dangerous if children use them to act out violent themes.
Activities deemed safe by the gender equity experts and the teachers they inspire include quilting, games without scores, and stories about brave girls and boys who learn to cry. The goal is to resocialize boys, freeing them from male stereotypes, and, ultimately, to promote genuine equality between the sexeswhich for the reformers means sameness. But decades of research in neuroscience, endocrinology, genetics, and developmental psychology, strongly suggest that masculine traits are hard-wired. There are exceptions, but here are the rules:Males have better spatial reasoning skills, females better verbal skills. Males are greater risk-takers, females are more nurturing. Boys like action, competitive rough-housing, and inanimate objects, and they are the one group of Americans who do not spend a lot of time talking about their feelings.
Try as they may, parents, teachers, and gender facilitators have not been successful in rooting out male behavior they regard as harmful.An equity facilitator tried to persuade a group of nine-year-old boys in a Baltimore public school to accept the idea of playing with baby dolls. According to one observer, Their reaction was so hostile, the teacher had trouble keeping order. And then there was Jimmy. At age 11, this San Francisco sixth grader was made to contribute a square to a class quilt celebrating women we admire. He chose to honor tennis player Monica Seles who, in 1993, was stabbed on the court by a deranged fan of Steffi Graf. Jimmy handed in a muslin square festooned with a tennis racket and a bloody dagger. His square may be unique in the history of quilting, but his teacher did not appreciate its originality and rejected it.
American classrooms are full of Jimmys. Efforts to change boys like Jimmy or my son and his bonfire companions will be difficult if not impossible. Nature is obdurate on some matters.While environment and socialization do play a significant role, scientists are beginning to pinpoint the precise biological correlates to many typical gender differences. A 2001 special issue of Scientific American reviewed the growing
evidence that childrens play preferences are, in large part, hormonally determined. Researchers confirmed what parents experience all the time: Even with counter-conditioning, boys and girls gravitate toward very different toys. (See the article by Iain Murray on pages 34 and 35, which lays out some of the new scientific findings on sex differences.) The entire anthropological record offers not a single example of a society where females have better spatial reasoning skills and males better verbal skills, where females are fixated on objects and men on feelings, or where males are physically docile and females aggressive.
In the face of what we know, it is altogether unreasonable to deny the biological basis for distinctive male and female preferences and abilities. Does this mean biology is destiny? As anthropologist Lionel Tiger (who is part of the male symposium beginning on page 24) says, biology is not destiny, but it is good statistical probability. There is still room for equity. A fair and just society offers equality of opportunity to all. But it cannot promise, and should not try to enforce, sameness. The natural differences between men and women suggest there will never be mathematical parity in all fields; far more men than women will choose to be mechanics, engineers, or soldiers. Early childhood education, family medicine, and social work will continue to be dominated by women. Boys will prefer bonfires to diaries and any teacher who requires them to contribute squares to a quilt should brace herself for insensitive images of monsters, dangerous animals, and weaponry. The male tendency to be competitive, risk-loving, more narrowly focused, and less concerned with feelings has consequences in the real world. It could explain why there are more males at the extremes of success and failure: more male CEOs, more males in maximum security prisons.
Of course, boys natural masculinity must be tempered. Social theorist Hannah Arendt is believed to have said that every year civilization is invaded by millions of tiny barbariansthey are called children. All societies confront the problem of civilizing their children, particularly the male ones. History teaches that masculinity constrained by morality is powerful and constructive; it also teaches that masculinity without ethics is dangerous and destructive.
We have a set of proven social practices for raising young men. The traditional approach is through character education to develop a young mans sense of honor and help him become a considerate, conscientious human being. Sociologists make an important distinction between pathological and healthy masculinity. Boys who exhibit aberrational masculinity define their manhood through anti-social and destructive acts; instead of protecting the vulnerable, they exploit them. Healthy masculinity is the opposite. Males who possess itthe vast majority of American boys and menstrive to be helpful and to achieve. They sublimate their natural aggression into sports, hobbies, and work. They build rather than destroy. And they do not exploit women and children, they protect them.
Efforts to civilize boys with honor codes, character education, manners, and rules of good sportsmanship are necessary and effective, and fully consistent with their masculine natures. Efforts to feminize them with dolls, quilts, non-competitive games, girl-centered books, and feelings exercises will fail; though they will succeed in making millions of boys quite unhappy. Dissident feminist Camille Paglia is one of the few scholars who values maleness: Masculinity is aggressive, unstable, combustible. It is also the most creative cultural force in history. When I cross any of Americas great bridges, I thinkmen have done this. Construction is a sublime male poetry.
This sublime poetry has been unappreciated in American society for more than a quarter of a century. But that appears to be changing. The awesome display of masculine courage shown by the firefighters and policemen at Ground Zero, the heroic soldiers fighting in Afghanistan and Iraq, the focused determination and exemplary leadership of President Bush,Vice President Cheney, Defense Secretary Rumsfeld, and General Tommy Franks, have rekindled in Americans an appreciation for masculine virtues. Many courageous and even heroic women took part in all these endeavors. But fighting enemies and protecting the nation are overwhelmingly male projects.
The gender activists who fill our schools and government agencies will continue with their efforts to make boys more docile and emotional. But fewer and fewer Americans will support them. Maleness is back in fashion. And one reason is that Americans are increasingly aware that traditional male traits such as aggression, competitiveness, risk-taking and stoicismconstrained by virtues of valor, honor and self-sacrificeare essential to the well-being and safety of our society.
Christina Hoff Sommers is a resident scholar at the American Enterprise Institute and the author of Who Stole Feminism? and The War Against Boys.
And, of course, the sandwich became a gun -- and soon both boys were shooting at each other across the table with their bologna 9mm pistols....
LOL!!! That's boys for ya.
No, No, NO it's men are men and women are NUTS! LoL
Funny how a newly coined term invades your life.
As of yesterday morning, I had never heard the word "metrosexual". Since 24 hours ago, it has come at me from two different news publications and now Free Republic.
Maybe I'm ignorant but what is that?
Not quite sure I could pick out all the positions in football either because I don't watch it much but I can tear out a car engine and skin a buck. I can also pick off a squirrel running from 75 yards out with my Ruger 10/22. Does that eliminate me from sissyhood.
Then I got over it and wanted to kick some idiot's butt!
Oh yea, but can you put it back??? ;)
LOL!!! That's boys for ya."
The LA Times ran an article by an upset mommie who forbade "violent" toys to her sons and was full of angst because they fabricated guns out of sticks and played shoot-em-up.
This was about the time Patsy Schroeder was working over the military. I wrote a letter to the Times which they surprisingly printed:
"Mrs. Smith is anxious because she cannot turn little boys into little girls; meanwhile Patsy Schroeder and her pals are trying to turn women into men."
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