[connectthedots]

Waiting for marriage is one thing, waiting around for a person to know their own mind is quite another. People should be honest about what they want and don't want, before things have gone on long enough to create false expectations or hard feelings.

I don't disagee with this comment at all. In fact, I think one can and should have these discussions, in detail, by the end of a second date if someone is looking for a marriage partner. The book "Date or Soulmate: How to Determine if Someone is Worth Purpuing in Two Dates or Less" by Neil Clark Warren is excellent.

I will remain cleibate until I remarry, but I am not going to wait six months only to possibly find out that a gal I've been dating is not all that enthusiastic about sex as an important part of a marriage relationship. If sex is not important enough to a gal to discuss by the end of the second date, I would only assume sex is not important to her. On the other hand, I would not enter into a discussion of this area if there were not not a lot of other important similarities in personalities, interests, hobbies, spirituality etc, in the first place.

[hellinahandcart]

On the other hand, I would not enter into a discussion of this area if there were not not a lot of other important similarities in personalities, interests, hobbies, spirituality etc, in the first place.

Yeah, there are deal-breakers out there other than sexual compatibility. Best to rule those out before the FIRST date.

In my own case, first thing I decided was "No Democrats".