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Socialization of homeschoolers
World Net Daily ^ | Posted: March 15, 2003 | Kyle Williams

Posted on 03/17/2003 5:14:36 AM PST by Carbonsteel

On nearly a daily basis, I am asked about the socialization of homeschoolers. That poor horse has been beaten dead from both sides. We know who continues to address the "problem," and it has been dismissed. Yet, what I, at least, have failed to address is why socialization is not only a non-issue for homeschoolers, but socialization is better done at home.

We can point to the successes of homeschoolers, their accomplishments and their abilities, but aside from that, why should socialization be done at home? First and foremost, God commanded that parents should teach their children, in Deuteronomy 11: 18-19:

Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

This coincides with socialization. With homeschooling, one is able to do what God commanded – something you won't find in government schools and sometimes not found in private schools. God told us to do this, not to get others to do it.

There is a joke that goes something like this: "I used to be worried about the socialization of my homeschooled child, but now I don't worry. Everyday I take my 8-year-old to the bathroom, beat him up, cuss him out and offer him drugs."

It may sound preposterous, but seriously, that joke is not far from reality. In contrast with government education, homeschooling offers a safe environment, is physically safe, spiritually safe and morally safe. That creates a foundation which will stay with the person their entire life and keep him or her anchored. Most homeschoolers I have encountered know right from wrong and are not afraid to express it.

Bottom line to socialization at home: It creates power and a firepower that will protect and hold together a person. And that, I believe, is the reason socialization is one of the biggest non-issues in the education debate. When one side of the political spectrum is brewing a force that will be nearly impossible to break, the other side gets a little nervous.

A final point in favor of homeschooled socialization – and perhaps one of the greatest – is that it closely knits together a loyal and loving family. You cannot compare the loyalty and kinship found in homeschooled families to families schooled in government institutions their entire life.

Socialization is not only a non-issue for homeschoolers, socialization at home is morally superior to government socialization. A child is the responsibility of their parents, and they require care, comfort, education and love, and all these things wrap into the issue of socialization. Furthermore, because of that, socialization is better done at home with parents who know them, love them and have their best interests at heart.

To leave the life of a child in the hands of the government and strangers almost their entire childhood life is not only a mistake, but immoral.

To add a disclaimer: Not all families are able to homeschool – including single moms and others – but the best thing you can do is be involved as much as possible in the life of your children. To become closely involved is the least one could do.

It all comes down to priorities. When both parents are working, their two young children are in public school (and then day care or latchkey the rest of the day), priorities are definitely in disorder. Which do you love more: your children or your job? If children are truly loved and they are the top priority, that's when socialization is best done at home.

Socialization should no longer be a problem for homeschoolers, but adopted as a strength and a force that will create long-reaching and untold effects.


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1 posted on 03/17/2003 5:14:36 AM PST by Carbonsteel
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To: Carbonsteel
This topic always cracks me up. We hear about pregnant schoolkids, drug addicted schoolkids, and murderous schoolkids and then people worry about homeschoolers not getting this kind of "socialization". Who wants their kids socialized in that way?
2 posted on 03/17/2003 5:17:32 AM PST by Straight Vermonter (http://www.angelfire.com/ultra/terroristcorecard/index.html)
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To: Carbonsteel; TxBec
After homeschooling for 15+ years and seeing the success of the vast majority of homeschoolers I don't even feel like responding. (I have a 20 year old daughter studying at Oxford for a semester with a 4.0 average)(worries the dickens out of me in today's situation, but she is in the hands of the Lord, not mine)
3 posted on 03/17/2003 5:19:02 AM PST by SLB
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To: Carbonsteel
A family that I am very close to homeschools their kids. They live in a nice neighborhood and--lo and behold!--the kids PLAY OUTSIDE WITH THE OTHER KIDS IN THE AFTERNOON!

Who'd'a thunk it?
4 posted on 03/17/2003 5:20:30 AM PST by Illbay (Don't believe every tagline you read - including this one)
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To: Illbay
Alot of us have to work for a living and cant afford to devote our entire lives to home schooling the kids.
5 posted on 03/17/2003 5:32:18 AM PST by oilfieldtrash
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To: Carbonsteel
The best arguement against Socialism of school Children is when youngsters are engaging in Oral Sex on school buses it would appear socialism has gone a little too far.
6 posted on 03/17/2003 5:34:08 AM PST by chatham
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To: SLB
Gosh that's wonderful SLB. Good News warms the heart.

All of the arguments against home schooling are falling apart and the misinformation and lies are starting to be exposed.

The smart money is on HSing, but our stupid society won't wake up to it yet.

7 posted on 03/17/2003 5:34:28 AM PST by AAABEST
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To: Carbonsteel
"Socialization" public/private school-style amounts to little more than a daily reenactment of "Lord of the Flies." Long live the homeschooling movement.
8 posted on 03/17/2003 5:35:33 AM PST by Lil'freeper
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To: Carbonsteel
On nearly a daily basis, I am asked about the socialization of homeschoolers.
Probably because positive portrayal of socialistic ideas seems to be a priority in many public schools.

-Eric

9 posted on 03/17/2003 5:35:43 AM PST by E Rocc
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To: Carbonsteel
Whenever I'm asked "What about socialization"? I reply that I'm not raising socialists.
10 posted on 03/17/2003 5:37:15 AM PST by asformeandformyhouse
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To: Carbonsteel
This old argument always seems to rear its ugly head when the homeschool detractors run out of their "legitimate" arguments, or, as we usually encounter it, when well-meaning family members and friends don't have a clue and haven't undertaken to try and understand. Our homeschooled kids "socialize" like crazy with all the other kids in the neighborhood. The good part is that most often they are "socializing" whre we can keep an eye on them.

I have a saying that I always tell those who express worry that our kids are being too sheltered and that they will have trouble when they are "exposed to the real world"; I tell them, "You don't have to throw the kid down the outhouse in order to teach them what's down there." That usually ends the discussion.
11 posted on 03/17/2003 5:37:31 AM PST by Pablo64 ("But still I fear and still dare not laugh at the the Madman.")
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To: oilfieldtrash
To add a disclaimer: Not all families are able to homeschool – including single moms and others – but the best thing you can do is be involved as much as possible in the life of your children. To become closely involved is the least one could do.
12 posted on 03/17/2003 5:39:12 AM PST by Clovis_Skeptic
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To: Straight Vermonter
Who wants their kids socialized in that way?

Oh, you know, the communist oxymoron of interdependencies or knowing how to blackmail each other and become criminals. (I'll say this to the teacher if you don't do that etc...). It's a happy village on which our kids must learn to depend on (sarcasm), slavery to others and not the truth, that is..... very very refining, aware of others, of humanity but a bit primitive, despite it being called a higher form of conning.

13 posted on 03/17/2003 5:39:35 AM PST by lavaroise
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To: chatham
You strayed into the truth here chatham, the educational system is worried about Socialism and not socialization!
14 posted on 03/17/2003 5:40:34 AM PST by patriot_wes
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To: oilfieldtrash
Alot of us have to work for a living and cant afford to devote our entire lives to home schooling the kids.

Most of the homeschoolers I've met have been of modest means. It's important enough to them that they manage it.

15 posted on 03/17/2003 5:40:46 AM PST by Tijeras_Slim
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To: Carbonsteel
Well spoken! And, I agree 100%.

16 posted on 03/17/2003 5:40:56 AM PST by Clovis_Skeptic
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To: Carbonsteel
We are in our 11th year of homeschooling.

Our oldest son is a sophomore at Transylvania University in Lexington, KY and is doing well, thank you very much. He has many friends - and well, what do you know - is doing very well academically, too!

Our other two sons - ages 16 and 11 are doing very well in their studies --as well as very involved in orchestra, baseball, tennis, Youth Group, etc. My 16-year old son is getting ready for Prom in a few weeks, too. They have many wonderful friends, as well.

The "socialization" question is something I get SO tired of hearing after 11 years. We're so busy know, that we have to turn many things down now - and prioritize. We've been "running" TOO much these days. :))

Just my .02 worth...

17 posted on 03/17/2003 5:42:40 AM PST by MasonGal
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To: Carbonsteel
We homeschool. Last week my wife was talking to a welfare school teacher and she mentioned that. The teacher said that she had to admit that our homeschooled children are probably getting a better education but not enough socialization. She went on to say that socialization is more important than education. Again, we had demonstrated for us why we keep our children away from the idiots who teach in the welfare schools.
18 posted on 03/17/2003 5:44:05 AM PST by Spiff
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To: asformeandformyhouse
I say I don't want my kids socialized by the socialists. Not many get it though....
19 posted on 03/17/2003 5:46:31 AM PST by Diva Betsy Ross ((no more movies anymore))
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To: Illbay
A family that I am very close to homeschools their kids. They live in a nice neighborhood and--lo and behold!--the kids PLAY OUTSIDE WITH THE OTHER KIDS IN THE AFTERNOON!

Who'd'a thunk it?

That's exactly how I "socialized" when I was homeschooled. High school helped a little, but I didn't really learn anything new except how shallow and fake high schoolers can be.

20 posted on 03/17/2003 5:47:25 AM PST by Future Snake Eater
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