I think you may have missed the point that the industry is trying to make...the system screws people by design. It's part of their goal. In order for the industry to stay profitable, maintain, and create new jobs within it, the system MUST be adversarial. If there were no chance of distorted and biased outcomes favoring one side (Re: mothers), their "clients" would vanish. Divorce is about as fun as a root canal, and no one would go out of their way to initiate it if their wasn't an up-front assumption of who is going to come out ahead and who is going to get the sausage enima. They want us at each others throats...their jobs and financial security depend on it. I hope no one here actually thinks that this evil system and it's inner workings happened by accident, made by people who had good intentions "for the children." Anyone who does is too stupid to be allowed to vote, let alone make public policy. Am I being a little too harsh in my assessment of things? Probably, but it's high time that this industry and the people in it are called what they really are. There has been over 30 years of this nonsense and after that many years of destroying lives, the people who support the system know what the score is and like it this way. In fact I imagine most of them think that it will all be a lot more fair if they can stick it to the dad's a little more.
Ignorance is correctable, but stupid is forever. The useful idiots are running the asylum and taking the rest of us along for the ride.
I am particularly saddend by the cynicism displayed by many males here - and mostly deservedly so - because of the unfair laws. Guys - don't give up on love - it is too precious and wonderful - just be cautious.
Am I cynical? You're damn-skippy I am! In fact, I'll go so far as to proclaim myself as the founder of a new idiology that I'll call The New Cynicism. It's an edgier and more harsh version that the old cynicism that served us so well in the past. Some may call it paranoia, but that is not accurate. Paranoia is an irrational fear that the world is out to get you. But the view of the New Cynic is to accept that the world is out to get us, and as any 12 step program will tell you, "acceptance IS the key!"
All jesting aside, it take more intestinal fortitude than I have to not "give up on love." A greedy, marxist organization has taken the one relationship (the one of being a father to my daughter) in my life that ever meant anything to me are using to both her and my detriment. And to make it even offending, their using my money to do it to us! The divorce and support industry has done to this country in one generation what Hitler, Stalin, Mao, and a host of others couldn't accomplish in a century.
A lot of people will dissagree with me on this, but the situation will not get better until it gets worse...a lot worse. There simply are not enough of us to force any poiltical change for the better. There are more women than men. Not all men marry or have children, and some who do are lucky enough to not be forced to go through the system. And of those who are put through the wringer, many of them have been brainwashed by the media to believe that their roll is to pay up and shut up. My guess is that we make up maybe 10% of the US population, not all of us vote, and we're spread across the entire country. We are spread so thin that we have not even been able to unseat a single one of the father-haters in the US house or Senate and the number of local elections, nationwide, that we have been able to effect in the past 20 years can probably be counted on one hand.