A prayer request

6/10/02 | Redcloak

[Teacup]

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I will pray for you and your wife and family. There is noithing harder than losing a child. Just be there for each other, and let God take care of the rest. Remember, He sees the whole picture. We don't. Just know that God loves us. God bless you and your family.

[RAT Patrol]

this may help I will pray for you. Don't forget you will all be together again someday.

[Vets_Husband_and_Wife]

Dear fellow freepers.. could you please PING your lists for this freeper family? Thanks.

Support Bump!!

[mombonn]

However much this hurts me, it hurts God worse.

That is such a true statement. I've often wondered who comforts Him? While His only Son was dying on the cross, who comforted the Father? Who comforted the Father while He had to turn away from the Son?

I will be praying for you and your wife and daughter.

[billbears]

My prayers are with you, your wife, and your daughter for the guidance of God Almighty. For comfort that nothing I can say offers but only come from our Lord above. May God just be with you all and lay His hand of strength upon you right now

[Pathfinder]

We are so very sorry for your sad loss. May God hold you near through your grief.

[Molly Pitcher]

Redcloak, several here have offered some excellent, helping links.

You and yours will be in my prayers....

[lucyblue]

I will keep you, your wife, your daughter and little Forrest in my prayers.

[Xenalyte]

Prayers for you and yours, my friend. God be with you, as Forrest surely is with Him.

[lsee]

My firstborn also had an umbilical cord crisis and survived only because we were in the hospital already. I can't imagine the pain you must be feeling, not only in the loss of your dear son, but having to be strong for your wife and daughter.

I know two families who have lost children this way and they will never forget those babies. It used to make me uncomfortable when my friends would refer to events in terms of "before Jeffrey was born" or "after Kimberly died", but the loss of those children was a landmark experience that changed them forever. And though both women have gone on to have other children, they carry the baby they lost in their hearts with them, even having the birthstone pendant added to their "mom" necklaces and mother's rings. They had that baby, therefore they are mother to that baby and always will be. Having that birthstone helps them keep the memory of that child alive and gives them an opportunity to talk about their loss when people say, "I thought you only had X number of children"....

Please talk to other parents who have gone through what you are going through. Allow yourself and your family to experience ALL the emotions relating to grief, including anger...it is okay to be angry about what we don't understand, angry with God, even. David expressed anger and frustration with God from time to time...and God loved him.

As your daughter gets older, she will understand better. One thing I've heard of families doing for grieving siblings was sending a card "up to Heaven" attached to a balloon. Your doctor may have other suggestions for helping her cope with her loss. She will see that you two are sad and may blame herself in the way kids do. She will not understand why her usual antics can't make you smile.

Both families say the hardest part was coming home to the nursery they'd prepared for the baby who would never occupy it. This is one reason I feel it is important to talk to parents who have been there. There are many grief-support groups on the web and your hospital may be able to put you in touch with grief counselors who specialize in child loss. One mother especially had trouble because some insensitive person made a remark which allowed her to fall into that self-blame trap, as if she could have done "something" differently to prevent the loss of her baby. She even felt at some level that her husband blamed her.

Please know that I am praying for you and your family during this time. It is okay to feel, from time to time, that knowing Forrest is "in a better place" is not as good as having him in your arms. It's not selfish to wish he were here instead.

[Wyatt's Torch]

My deepest sympathies for you and your family. May you be comforted that Forrest is with the Lord. You will be in our prayers.

[Love of Country]

On the way

God bless Yoy,

DrMike

[4CJ]

Redcloak, my heart grieves for you, your family and for Forrest. I'll keep all of you in my prayers.

[Peace4EarthNow]

You have my deepest condolensces on the loss of your precious son, Forrest. I am at a loss for words to say right now, but I have prayed to God for you & your wife and daughter.

I prayed that God will comfort you in your time of need, and that he will continue to grant you the strength & courage you will need to get yourself and your family through this.

God Bless....

[Vets_Husband_and_Wife]

BUMP for this family and little Forrest.

[KC Burke]

A prayer sent your way. Words are not enough at a time like this.

[Grammy]

Redcloak, May the Lord make His presence known to you and comfort you in this time of grief. He has a plan my friend. We don't see it yet, but trust me, it is there.

[alnick]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. My prayers go out to you and your family.

[hope]

I know you have such pain now and it will not go away but it will become less painful with time and by allowing the Lord to fill your sorrow with His joy. And that is my pryer for you and your family.

Isaiah 41: 10
Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.'

[HeadOn]

"...Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the LORD thy God [is] with thee whithersoever thou goest." Joshua 1:9

May the Holy Spirit comfort all of your family, and the peace that passes all understanding be real to you, now more than ever.