"Can't"? I lean towards your opinion myself (as another HSing father), but isn't that part of the point of HSing? That decisions like this be made by those who know and love the child best?
And you have to love the part about the "experts" trying to pat the parents' little heads and disabuse them of their delusions. I've not had that lecture, but I've had that tone. "Yes, Mr. Phillips, we are aware that at one time [i.e. back in the Cenozoic era, when you were a child] school was viewed as a place to learn academic subjects...."
Dan