You say "Find another"...I have been trying just that for the last 11 years...easy to say, hard to do. Most women today either want a sugar daddy, or they have been so mistreated that they can't (or won't) trust a man ever again. And some just are victims of their own bad choices, but the common thinking today is that whatever bad things have happened to women are because of men, and couldn't possibly be the woman's fault. They say they don't want "baggage" or "head-games", but by mid-life, everyone has baggage, and everyone has either played, or been played. Having baggage is not a sin, it's what you do with it. What you described is exactly what I'm looking for.