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The good thing about closing your post with an insult is that now I don't have to waste the energy explaining Little Man Syndrome (or the evidence) to you.

Ms Lyte: You were the one calling attention to your weight. For whatever reason you had, you felt your weight was germane to the discussion. And your having done so, anybody was free to comment on your weight -- or did you think you had a free pass on making statements without any response?

And for the life of me, what is so insulting about observing that you look as if you weigh more than you claim? Anyone can look at the pictures you freely published and decide for themselves whether you weigh over 150 or not. To me, you look like you weigh over 150 ... and since it was YOU who raised the topic, who felt it to be so germane, why should I not share my opinion?

But what distresses me most, is your implication that a woman who weighs more than 150 should be disdained. Otherwise, why would you be "insulted" by my observation?

The fact that you absolve yourself from answering the objections to your original proposition is one of the most delicious ironies to be published on FR.

Your original contention was that any man, even a small man, who starts a fight, should be man enough to suffer any and all consequences of the fight he started, even if the consequences are not inflicted in self-defense, but merely a form of punishment for his having dared to start the fight.

Yet YOU, having started a fight on the issue, back down in a cowardly way because someone "insulted" you. It looks like you really are not a Texas sort of Amazon, nor even a level-headed conservative woman. You are just a coward who knows how to start a fight, but is too afraid to finish it.

I don't even know WHERE to start with this opus, which you've obviously been planning for a few days now.

Ms Lyte: You were the one calling attention to your weight. For whatever reason you had, you felt your weight was germane to the discussion. And your having done so, anybody was free to comment on your weight -- or did you think you had a free pass on making statements without any response?

I mentioned my weight (and my height, on which I notice you didn't comment) to make the point that I was coming from the big-man perspective.

And for the life of me, what is so insulting about observing that you look as if you weigh more than you claim? Anyone can look at the pictures you freely published and decide for themselves whether you weigh over 150 or not. To me, you look like you weigh over 150 ... and since it was YOU who raised the topic, who felt it to be so germane, why should I not share my opinion?

You don't think it insults a woman to tell her she looks heavier than she is? Are you still single, by any chance?

But what distresses me most, is your implication that a woman who weighs more than 150 should be disdained. Otherwise, why would you be "insulted" by my observation?

See above. One does not comment unfavorably on a lady's weight. Also, if you actually knew a woman, you'd know that we don't like to be reminded of our upper-end scales.

The fact that you absolve yourself from answering the objections to your original proposition is one of the most delicious ironies to be published on FR.

Ever heard of argumentum ad hominem? Go look it up.

Your original contention was that any man, even a small man, who starts a fight, should be man enough to suffer any and all consequences of the fight he started, even if the consequences are not inflicted in self-defense, but merely a form of punishment for his having dared to start the fight.

And I stand by my original contention, which is don't start something you can't finish. Costin didn't think. He jumped a big guy while he was still wearing hockey gear. Ever get kicked by someone wearing skates? I'd rather not, myself.

Yet YOU, having started a fight on the issue, back down in a cowardly way because someone "insulted" you. It looks like you really are not a Texas sort of Amazon, nor even a level-headed conservative woman. You are just a coward who knows how to start a fight, but is too afraid to finish it.

See the ad hominem part above. It's not "cowardly" to stop arguing when someone attacks you personally. It's a sign of recognition that I'm not gonna get you to change your mind, since you've left the issue and resorted to name-calling.

Did that clear things up, honey? If not, write back and I'll try to use smaller words.