Well said...we are programmed thru both nature and nurture to be who we are. Accept it...go with it.
I am a grieving father...lost my amazing 16 year old son and only child to heart failure, and went on to publish 3 books on the subject of male versus female emotions in grief. I humbly keynote speak or present workshops within businesses and with several international non-profit grief support organizations to help others on the same journey as me.
I am only so well received because I am a man who will stand up and talk about men's emotions in grief...and first and foremost, "This is who you are. I am not here to change you...just ask that you understand it." I know that sounds pompous in a way, but after a profound loss of a child or a spouse, most of us bereaved go through a period of wondering "Who am I now?" This helps them. Sorry so long....passionate subject for me...
Thank you for the reply. I can’t imagine what it must be like to lose a child at any age. Based on grief of my divorce, I can assume it is a nightmare you wouldn’t wish on your worst enemy.
The bottom line is we have to move on, and be happy and productive regardless of the circumstances otherwise you end up bitter, angry, resentful, and often in rehab.
Guys need a close friend to talk to, not always their wife.
Mine left me after 20 years, she’s now with another man. I could spend a lot of time feeling rejected, inadequate, lost, resentful, but I find comfort in randomly slashing her tires... ahaha JK. Comfort in accepting it is what it is, and I cannot control how she behaves or what she says or does. I don’t have to like it but I’m not going to let that event ruin my life.
Godspeed IP.