“In every corner of the world and in every epoch of history, the men and women of every culture deserve each other. ”
Women have been taught to believe that a pre-nub is offensive to them. They freak out if a regular guy with normal assets even thinks of asking for one.
That may need to change if women wish to be married. This court thing has simply gone too far. The fastest way back would be for women to simply get used to the idea of getting it all in writing first.
This all can be traced back to when they allowed women to vote.
Before that, all the crazy ones did to occupy their time was to b*tch and moan in temperance societies.
And never, ever marry.
Because our society has in fact made it a legal slavery.
The contrast to the standard American marriage is striking.
The problem with the left is a total disregard of biology. Chromosomes don't determine sex, feelings do. Reproduction, according to the state, is inconsequential and 'love' and 'feelings' are paramount.
So it is difficult to talk about the 'mating game' and men going there own way without going back to a time when marriage had a purpose. With that in mind we can never forget that the eukaryote has always been at war with the eusocial.
Nothing destroys a man's wealth faster than a failed marriage. And today, women have all the power and with that have no incentive to stay in a marriage if it gets in trouble. Since women have no incentive to stay in a marriage, men have no incentive in joining one.
So, if the benefit of the whole does not disrupt the benefit of the individual, more men might be enticed into getting married and starting a family. But those days are gone.
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Whatever that means . . .
Economic and social Lysistrata and ostracism from men: turn-about is fairplay.
Be careful what you wish(ed) for, ladies.
In the video, I noted, among other things, that married men work harder (about 400 more hours), smarter (they’re less likely to quit without having found another job), and more successfully (they make about $16,000 more per year) than their single peers.
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Yet the single men are happier and not as stressed out.
Yes, marriage has benefits. The article documents them fairly well so no need to go into them.
I'll simply answer the question that every single married man eventually asks themselves if they're married long enough:
Yes. They all are. Welcome to the club. Find a hobby, develop external friendships, get out of the house a few nights a week to save your sanity.
For those of you men who aren't married and reading this, I'm going to break the married men code here and tell you what the question is?
Are they ALL bat-shit crazy?
Yes. They all are. Welcome to the club. They get that way after children and are on the verge of becoming empty nesters with you. Their hormones go nuts during "the change" and they begin to question EVERYTHING including the choices they've made about having children, raising them, putting careers on hold, wanting to resume a career and then realizing they're pretty much dependent on you for their own financial well being. That's when they feel "trapped" and start regretting every decision they've ever made.
Do yourself a favor: get out of her way and let her figure things out for herself. Don't try and "fix" her, she's not "fixable" in the traditional sense that we poor men know how to fix things like our cars, computers, stuff around the house, etc.. Keep your mouth shut, say as little as possible and find a hobby, preferably that involve other men and getting out of the house at least two nights a week "with the guys."
Hobbies help us keep our minds occupied while they "figure it out" and there's safety in numbers with other men who've also figured out by now (or soon will...) that yes, they're all bat-shit crazy.
Trust me on this. I'm in the middle of it right now. Every single guy I know has either been through the same thing already and come out the other side ok, or will be going through it soon and is seeking out advice.
If you want to know why men become woman haters, it happens during their going bat-shit crazy phase. They ALL do it, they ALL are.
Bmk
In today’s world, marriage is a risky business venture. As someone who practices family law, I can tell you all of the war stories, but the problem lies with the no fault divorce.
Prior to the no fault regime, if you wanted a divorce you had to prove a “cause” such as adultery, insanity, incarceration, physical abuse, etc. Also, there was an action for alienation of affection. That meant that if you screwed around, the jilted spouse could bring a civil action against you for breaking up the family. Additionally, there was the social stigma of divorce. When you combine all of this, you get a strong incentive to maintain the marriage.
In the current world, people simply get tired of each other. They go to court on the grounds of irreconcilable differences, and boom, divorce is granted. Of course, there are arguments about custody and property, but it is pretty cut and dry: the community property will be divided, the kids go to mom, and the dad will pay child support at a predetermined statutory rate. It really is that simple.
I can tell you personally that in my practice, I have noticed that women are much more likely to file for divorce than men. Men might be unhappy or disappointed, but they fight like hell to keep the family together, even after catching the woman in an affair. Women on the other had have ever economic advantage to the divorce. They’ll get maintenance, child support, half of the property, and most likely qualify for every government program under the sun.
But then, once the woman is on their own, they realize that even with the man paying child support and uncle same footing part of the bill, its still not enough to get by. This is when the woman will usually, ape to the lowest common denominator and shack up with the first man that offers her the opportunity. This is where it get dangerous for the kids because the woman is willing to overlook character flaws in the man in the name of economic security (think drunk, physical/verbal abuser, sexual pervert, etc I’ve seen it all).
So, you wonder why men are ticked at women when their ex-wife takes half of their property, 1/3 of their paycheck, the kids, and shacks up with some drunk loser that slaps his kids around? You wonder why the younger generation that grew in that environment or have been exposed to it have a grudge against women and marriage?
I cannot remember the last time I knew a Couple that had not lived together before getting Married. In fact, I know a few Couples that got Married after having a Child, not before or even during the Pregnancy.
There used to be a whole bunch of six Month “Full Term” Pregnancies in the day. Now they make Wedding Gowns with Elastic Waist Bands.
Heck, on this very Conservative Forum there are many people who choose to cohabitate with their significant other without the benefit of Marriage.
Not being Judgmental since I did the same over 30 Years ago. My Mother was not pleased and I’m a Guy. #;^)
That was never considered a Conservative Value but times have changed.
Time to face the fact that the goal of Marriage is becoming an afterthought in a Relationship, unless you’re Gay of course.
My wife of three years left me a few months ago. The pain only seems to increase as time goes on :( after She left, and during one of my “pleading sessions” she said she regarded the marriage as “an experiment” that didn’t work out for her. She seemed flabbergasted when I scolded her for using such a cold term. She said it in two occasions, thereafter. These women REALLY know how to hurt a guy :(
Bfl
Not just women haters.
And if our own government wasnt so into using the unconstitutional Family Court system to take in over 50 billion dollars a year from couples , ie,another type of civil asset forfeiture, and deliberately drag out proceedings and deliberately encourage animosity between spouses, as stated by judges and lawyers that practice in Family Court,
We could have very efficient and straightforward divorce laws that much of europe has where there is no forever alimony, child support actually goes to the childs needs and is not stealth alimony, and the process is quicker and not set up to increase spousal animosity. There divorce occurs in such a way as to let people get on with their lives as opposed to the court making a living off of keeping divorce proceedings going as long as possible to drain money away from the family.
Of my friends I am the last man standing.
Even though I am in a reasonably happy marriage (20+ years). I do not recommend it for any man — unless he is able to reverse the leverage (e.g., rich wife).
I never congratulate men (or women for that matter) when they announce intentions to marry. I stay silent.
Time for a Joke.
A little Boy Toddler and a little Girl Toddler are sitting on the floor playing.
The little Boy pulls open the front of his Diaper, looks down and says, you don’t have one of these.
The little Girl pulls open the front of her Diaper, looks down and says, with one of these I can get 100 of those.
Women started it. “Work, kids, bring home the bacon, too! You don’t need a man!”