[cherry]

as a woman, and a mother, I don't understand why fathers need to be in the delivery room,except as an assurance to the mother, who is in a scary situation among strangers prodding and poking her, hands restrained most often....

here are the facts......women carry babies inside, women give birth, women lose lots of blood doing it, and its very painful, and there is no sharing the pain.....

and to put the myth to bed about doctors "delivering" babies....MOTHERS give birth, the doc is there to catch the baby but he does not do the delivering....moms do that all by themselves....

I think it would be good to get back to male/female roles and stop thinking one sex can do it all OR needs to take part in every single thing..

[Carry_Okie]

and to put the myth to bed about doctors "delivering" babies....MOTHERS give birth, the doc is there to catch the baby but he does not do the delivering....moms do that all by themselves....

My first daughter was presenting occiput transverse. The obstetrician had to perform a mid-forceps procedure or both she and the baby (FReeper NattieShea) would have died.

[roadcat]

and to put the myth to bed about doctors "delivering" babies....MOTHERS give birth, the doc is there to catch the baby but he does not do the delivering....moms do that all by themselves….

One of my daughters gave birth to a beautiful baby girl three days ago. A couple days before, her two-year-old daughter was asking her "Mommy, when is my baby sister going to pop out?". She told her babies don't just pop out. Well, she got contractions, went to the hospital, and shortly thereafter the baby indeed popped out, the doctor barely turning around in time to catch the baby. Mom didn't need to push or be told to push, this kid flew out. The two-year-old was right and all the family had a laugh about it. Thirty-five years ago when the new mom (my daughter) was born, I helped deliver her beside a midwife, and cut the cord with a scissors. Wonderful experience and I recommend it to any dad.

[Secret Agent Man]

no sharing of the pain....?

try the rest of the marriage from that point on.

[mountainbunny]

as a woman, and a mother, I don't understand why fathers need to be in the delivery room,except as an assurance to the mother, who is in a scary situation among strangers prodding and poking her, hands restrained most often....

Why in the world would anyone restrain your hands? I've logged a lot of hours in the delivery room, and not once was I restrained.

here are the facts......women carry babies inside, women give birth, women lose lots of blood doing it, and its very painful, and there is no sharing the pain.....

Husbands can do a lot in the delivery room. They can shut down bossy nurses who want to do it their way instead of the way the doctor agreed to do it. They can demand a second opinion if things go wrong. They can advocate for their child if need be - the mother can't follow the baby to the intensive care unit if needed.

Years ago, when friends of ours lost their daughter during delivery, the husband insisted that they be allowed to hold the baby over the protests of the nurse, who said it wasn't done. This was back when it was standard practice to whisk the baby away to the morgue right away.

I think it would be good to get back to male/female roles and stop thinking one sex can do it all OR needs to take part in every single thing..

A man who would abandon his wife to the most frightening experience she's possibly ever going to have is no man at all. There is a vast difference between not sharing hobbies and not being there during a major medical event.

My husband and I have a very traditional marriage. We each have plenty of interests the other doesn't share. He would never abandon me due to a little blood (or even a lot).