Spare me. He doesn't have to seek accolades, he simply needs to be open with her as to what he is doing. The amount of spin to try to defend this is quite telling.
Yes, I know there's a difference between the red bucket and a person and also the amounts involved. The thing is that Cain is wealthy enough that the amounts may correlate and he helps enough people (of both sexes) that he didn't feel compelled to "confess" to charity.
I think I've read enough of your posts over the many years I've been here to think you're not a jerk or a dope. And you may be right that Mrs. Cain will see it your way. I just think there's a very good likelihood that this was innocent charity on a level he can afford and I can't. Also, we don't know what the level was.
Didn't see your reply, so I'll assume you are married. So, you tell your wife every time you give money to someone or some organization with charitable intentions? Do you also tell her when you stop to have a beer with your friends?
Hey brother, spare a dime for a cup of coffee?
Sorry, I have to check with my wife.