Kim, I too have seen things like you suggest. However, one must not discount that perhaps this child experienced things that the parents did not know about that were influencing her actions. I would never be one to say that it is always the fault of the parents that a child rebels, or makes self-destructive decisions. However, in my experience, one sometimes finds out years later that something happened to cause this change — not always within their family unit. Just wanted to throw that out there... :)
I completley agree!
I understand the perspective and can say theoretically it makes slight sense.
HOWEVER, as I’ve noted . . . in probably 5,000 families . . .
I have NEVER seen a single case of that. There has ALWAYS been a more than sufficient cause in the childrearing that occurred the first 8 years of life.
That’s just been my experience and my observations.