Very good points! Thank you for reminding us of that. I honestly think this guy was dabbling in things that are way beyond the realm of a human parent to prevent at this point... Just my opinion of course, but I don’t want to see his family solely blamed for the actions of an ADULT. Is it important to understand how his past could’ve influenced his future? Of course, however, to then lay the blame at the feet of his parents makes him into a victim — like he had no choices of his own... I don’t think that’s a fair analysis. After all, there are many of us who have lived through abuse and do NOT turn out to be mass murderers... So, at some point one has to realize that he was solely responsible for his actions — his reactions — to those around him.
I was not treated right, at all, growing up (actually, that’s not quite right...after my mother’s death, I was not treated right, and, quite frankly, I would call it abusive). And it didn’t stop there, but that’s another story.
In any event, I had choices before me, as does everyone else. I chose to follow the Lord, and He counseled me on how to best deal with the abuse I received at home....and then later.
And those good points came from the Lord during one of His own “counseling sessions” with me. I had become very good at blaming myself for things (all things) over which I either had no control or only part control. And the Lord prompted me to think about Judas and the Lord, his friend. The best of all kinds of friends couldn’t reach Judas. And Jesus was not to blame for that AT ALL. I realized then, the most I could blame myself in any relationship is 50%, tops, not 100%, as I had been.
And, there you have it, friend. : )