Yes and no.
Yes, making good parenting choices helps the teen years go smoothly.
But no, that is no guarantee of smooth sailing.
I have seen far too many families, where all the kids were given pretty much the same upbringing by the parents, yet the amount of rebellion ranged from almost non-existent to off-the-charts.
I have seen far too many families, where all the kids were given pretty much the same upbringing by the parents, yet the amount of rebellion ranged from almost non-existent to off-the-charts.
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KIDS DO NOT NEED THE ****SAME**** treatment. The NEED whatever that individual NEEDS.
I have NEVER observed a teen who as a 1-8 year old was bonded well with by an emotionally conencted balanced lovingly healthily affectionate father who grew up to be a rebellious teen. NEVER.
That would probably be over . . . a guesstimated 5,000 plus families I’ve had rather direct observations/info about.
It’s much more my style to make the relevant points and try and point folks to learning principles that they can better apply in their lives.
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I’ve found that folks who are eager for growth are very quick and able to get the meat and spit out the bones from whatever I offer.
And folks who balk, kick up a fuss, rationalize 12 ways to Sunday . . . are unlikely to be persuaded by a 12 foot high stack of solid research and other “proof.”