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dear thomas - you are just looking for a fight that isn't there.

I was responding to a poster's comments concerning the book Generation Me where the author stated...

" "you might find yourself cooped up with young children every day and let's face it -- who is really prepared for that?""

Yes - I have personally experienced this attitude among many women.
yes - I have personally had many women say to me "how can you STAND IT? being with kids all day every day!"

So yes - in my personal experience I have come across this attitude.
In my professional life I heard women discuss stay-at-home moms in the same fashion. Two female bosses I had made their opinions very well known.

So - no it isn't a delusion and no - I am not making the claim that all professional women have this attitude.
Most women are not all one thing or another.
Most women take some time off here and there - work part-time, or go back to full time when the kids are older.

Scot is a freeper - why not ask him yourself?

So I should ask ????husband? I'm not looking for a fight, are most of you from rural areas? or small towns? Maybe that is the difference. I live in New Jersey and the cost of living is high. So maybe you just don't have the ability understand other peoples lives. But keep your mind closed and nothing will fall in.

"Yes - I have personally experienced this attitude among many women.
yes - I have personally had many women say to me "how can you STAND IT? being with kids all day every day!" "

I knew a couple in Omaha who were the son-in-law and daughter of our then next door neighbor. Both of them worked before the woman got pregnant, and planned on doing so after she had her first child. She was about 23 when she gave birth, and my wife and I were stunned at the way she responded to being a new mother.

She appeared to intentionally keep distance between her and her baby daughter, constantly trying to hand the new baby off to others, allowing the child to cry for long periods of time without picking the baby up, never really paying one-to-one attention to the child even when the women was holding her.

She dumped the baby in daycare after six weeks. After about three months, despite the fact that they had no money troubles, the woman got a second job. She told her mother that she needed the job to get time away from the baby.

The child ended up spending about 10 hours a day in day care, then would go home for about an hour, and split time at night between the father's care and day care...again.

It seemed as if the woman intentionally tried to keep from a natural bonding with the baby because she knew that it would make it easier to put the child in day care if she didn't spend too much time with it after the birth. It was truly a sad thing to watch.

The child was about two years old when the woman divorced the father and decided to look for "something more" for her.

This woman was the product of a very liberal upbringing, and was very open, before she got pregnant, about her disdain for the typical burdens of parenting.