As with anything, there will always be something or someone better. Like interviewing job candidates, rarely to never do you come across the "perfect candidate". Instead, you collect resumes, filter them, bring in candidates for an interview and then extend an offer to the "best available".
Sometimes, a "best available" will come along who stands out from all the other "best availables". For some reason, they tend to get away. Perhaps my sincerity in communicating to them comes across as fake flattery. I'm not sure but there's something about me that I still don't fully understand.
"As with anything, there will always be something or someone better. Like interviewing job candidates, rarely to never do you come across the "perfect candidate". Instead, you collect resumes, filter them, bring in candidates for an interview and then extend an offer to the "best available"."
I appreciate your honesty, but again I have to think "how sad". The mindset that one would keep comparing one individual against others as if they are a commodity is foreign to me.
I too had "loves" previous to my husband.
At the time I thought they were "it" - and one them particularly broke my heart.
But looking back I can see that things happen for a reason, and when people are meant to be together, then they stay together.
When they drift apart - there is a darn good reason for it.
I don't compare my husband to them - every person is unique with their own God-given beauty and should be appreciated as such.
My exes wound up with partners better suited for them - and I wound up with the man best suited for me.
He is the best gift ever given to me and I hope I never take it for granted.
"Sometimes, a "best available" will come along who stands out from all the other "best availables". "
You do understand, don't you? That if you told your wife she was "best available" chances are she would be heartbroken?
Would you want to be considered "best available"?
Would you stand for it?
If I thought I was considered "best available" I would leave.