'Marriage Is for White People'

Washington Post ^ | 3/26/6 | Joy Jones

[Tuscaloosa Goldfinch]

You're right -- you never know what lies beneath the surface. Neither my husband nor myself had examples of good marriages either - but have been very happy together (-- except right now when he can't hear and I have laryngitis. Today I had to resort to whistling at him to get his attention. )

Both our older children have married children from broken homes. So there are a whole host of issues there.

[Riverman94610]

Oh,for sure,a twp parent family upbringing brought me all kinds of advantages like the ones you mentioned.
But my folks were always playing power games based on fear.Being a man,I sympathized with my dad,a good hearted,kind man with a gentle soul.My mom was the hard driving aggressive sort and she thought she had married beneath her stature.
I have a lot of my dad in me.I stay away from hard nosed, ambitious women who are loud and belligerent.
Of course nowadays that doesn't leave much to choose from!

[Riverman94610]

Its really a crapshoot.Right now I am so cynical about relationships its pathetic.
I teach in ghetto schools in my fair city and I observe the conversations going on between young black men and women.I will just sum it up by saying these conversations are not based on mutual respect and intellectual substance.
Then again,neither were mine in my high school days!

[Tuscaloosa Goldfinch]

Being a man,I sympathized with my dad,a good hearted,kind man with a gentle soul.My mom was the hard driving aggressive sort and she thought she had married beneath her stature.

I've known some women like this. (My uncle married one -- same situation -- disdain from her, kindness from him.) Got to be heck for sons, and not a great experience for daughters either.

[RIGHT IN LAS VEGAS]

Testing

[nickcarraway]

Don't worry, after homosexual civil unions become law, marriages among whites will sink precipitously.

[FreedomPoster]

I have of late been labelling Jimmy as the worst foreign policy President of my lifetime, and LBJ as the worst domestic policy President in that period.

And if I had to say which was worse, I'd run with your assessment.

[nickcarraway]

Hispanics are white.

[MonroeDNA]

"The article states there is a problem. What is the solution?"

Simple. Cut off all welfare, period, including the earned income thing.

No food stamps, no nothing.

Harsh? yup. Blacks 70 years ago would shun blacks of today.

[FreedomPoster]

There are many, many other faces that should be in that post.

Several of them sit in Congress.

[cgbg]

What is the solution?

Draconian but it will end the problem--any single mother below the age of eighteen has six months to find a husband--or she loses the kid.

[nickcarraway]

What do you attribute the recent change in humanity that so many more people aren't cut out for marriage? Global warming?

[durasell]

And the kid gets to be "state raised?"

[MonroeDNA]

Bring bak orphanages.

At least they will not be doing crack, or dealing it. Tough love rules!!!!

[cgbg]

I stay away from hard nosed, ambitious women who are loud and belligerent. Of course nowadays that doesn't leave much to choose from!

Wise choice. Remember to take any date to a restaurant and watch how she treats the waiter--because that could be you in a few years. :-)

You need only find one good woman. Take your time and be picky--they are out there...

[cgbg]

kid..state raised...

The state takes the kid and then.. it is called "adoption". Babies of any race would find plenty of takers.

[durasell]

Yeah, that'll work.

[durasell]

There's a tremendous surplus of foster kids in the system who will never be adopted. Basically, they're shuttled from foster home to foster home until 18 and then it's, "See ya..."

Also, a lot of these kids have serious emotional problems, many of them inflicted pre-birth.

[KentTrappedInLiberalSeattle]

married African American women are less healthy than their single sisters.

Particularly if they were stupid enough to marry Bobby Brown.

[::rimshot::]