My maternal grandmother (born 1895) was a bacteriologist at the Medical College of Georgia (Augusta). My paternal grandmother (born 1890) became a day trader on the stock market after she was left a widow with three young children. They were ladies to their fingertips.
They laughed at obstacles, or ignored them and forged ahead. The secret is to be cheerful, persistent, and courteous - ultra-ladylike if you will. Making employers and business prospects feel uncomfortable and guilty because of supposed patriarchal prejudice against women is counterproductive (and it's rude.)
("Feminist Movement? We don't need no steekin' Feminist Movement!")
Clearly you have inherited the wisdom and values of your ancestresses.
Very well said!