When I was in High school we had a teacher who was female, She was 6"5" she weighed in at probably 225 and had feet that were at least 13's.She shaved every day. and if she had dressed as a male she would have easily passed.
She had a lady friend she lived with.
She was such a brilliant,delightful person, although manly, that everyone loved her. Her deformity , --I suppose you could call it, was overlooked by everyone. She demanded respect and she got it, If a male student handed her any crap she would jack them up like any man would do. We all loved her. She was a Biology teacher and the first class she gave in biology to new classes coming in was to explain her disorder./
I suppose when she died, loved by the whole county, only her Funeral director knew for sure.
I supose we could assume she had mental stress, but if she did we never knew it. We just accepted her for what she was. Perhaps if she had been born today she would have had surgery. I wont argue with you about your choice , since I am not in a position to understand that choice.
Now this womans problem was obvious to everyone, she should have been born a male, but she lived her life as she was, unashamed , unabashed, unconquered. She died at about 80 I would guess.
Your last paragraph lost me completely. You celebrate a 25th anniversary with your partner and she just had a baby 5 years ago? You were married 20 years before you had a child and then had yourself mutilated? Why in the hell would someone do that? You are over 60 with a 5 year old kid , a wife and wearing a dress?? Maybe getting mutilated was a relief to you , but now your wife must be going nuts?