So sorry to hear of your loss, many blessings to you and your family. May I ask, did you lose your son to a war?
No. I lost my son to accidental carbon monoxide poisoning.
(If you use ANY kind of gas, get a CO detector and give them to everybody you know.)
I know it's not a violent death, but I KNOW that if my son had chosen to go to the military, I would have not denigrated his death with actions like those.