God willing, I will never lose a child. The Chinese have a saying: The white haired people should never see the black haired people die. I've lost both of my parents, and while that's tough, it's the natural order of things. One day my children will lose me. Losing a child is a whole 'nother story.
Wonder what I said to get them upset.
My grandmother lost one of her sons (one of my uncles) in WWII and never joined with the Japanese to berate the President and the war. Her heart was just as broken, but she had both integrity and character, something this woman lacks.
I have lost a child; my only child; a son 27 years old.
This cannot be blamed on her grief. Period.