People like You, and with your ideas, are a LOT of the reason I am still single.
DO you want to know MY definition of a "slut'? SIMPLE-- A woman who has SEX, OUTSIDE of marriage. PERIOD. NOW-- IF a woman settles down, with ONE man, and REMAINS faithful to him, and him ALONE, then, she is NOT a slut,. REGARDLESS of the past she had.
Then, you say, "many people I know, would never consider marriage , without having sex with someone first". (the old" would you buy a car, without a "test drive", first?) UNACCEPTABLE. The bible I read, did NOT state, "in the future, these commandments, will heve to be "adapted" to fit the times". Bull$hit!!! You are buying much of the feminists propaganda!! "no reason NOT to have sex, outside of marriage" BS!!
BTW-- I AGREE, that MEN should be held to the SAME standard, as women, and that there is STILL a double standard, BUT, that standard seems to be diminishing, as nowdays, even "Christinas", are falling into the "new morality", trap, and having pre-maritial sex, and living together, at will.
Would you believe I've never called a woman in a slut in earnest? I've come to understand that promsicuity isn't desirable, but reaching out in vitriol and spite isn't the answer.
no, with all due compassion, it is your fault: you didn't even bother to figure out which views I are my own and which are held by other people, but important for the discussion. I actually agree with the rest of your message. Only the first line in crazy :)
While I disagree with almost every line Modernman writes, he can and should stay in this forum and express his views. He does belong here, it's a public forum.
You have taken quite a beating here; so I thought I should chime in. Your words have wisdom and maturity. I was not always a Christian, I was more of a “find your own truth” libertarian (but never a Democrat). I wish I never had premarital sex. I may never fully understand the consequences to a person’s spirit that our sexual revolution may cause. At the time, I thought Christianity was a religion for the weak minded.
Nevertheless, I understand it now. It is possible to be a good, moral person while living a life of hook-ups and rotating mates; heck, I have friends and family (single) who continue to do so. Whenever I bring it up in conversation with such a friend or family member, that person often ends up excusing or defending his actions. I get the impression that we all know it’s wrong at a deep, spiritual level.
At some point, the matter progresses beyond a rational discussion. Living according to a high moral standard does not make sense to a world not connected with God. I am reminded of the following:
Romans 1:22 Claiming to be wise, they became fools [professing to be smart, they made simpletons of themselves
1 Corinthians 2: 14 14But the natural, nonspiritual man does not accept or welcome or admit into his heart the gifts and teachings and revelations of the Spirit of God, for they are folly (meaningless nonsense) to him; and he is incapable of knowing them [of progressively recognizing, understanding, and becoming better acquainted with them] because they are spiritually discerned and estimated and appreciated.
"DO you want to know MY definition of a "slut'? SIMPLE-- A woman who has SEX, OUTSIDE of marriage. PERIOD."
Well then, your world is full of sluts. Funny, you lament the double standard further down but you failed to include men in your definition of "slut". Why?