And I don't mean "9 irons".
My best friend went through this thing, when his wifey decided at age 33, with 3 kids, that he had manipulated her into marrying him at age 19. (He had just graduated from college at 22, and she was from a broken ("I want out of here...anyone-will-do") home). So, she takes a hike leaving her kids with two different neighbors everytime he goes on a business trip, so she can shack-up with her long-lost-true-love rock'n roll boyfriend.
After she about drives him broke, and he comes back to his house a half-dozen times with not knowing where she stashed the kids, he got tough. She got her girlfriends attorney, who began explaining to her how to get the most out of her life (damn the kids and certainly him). If she just bailed on him and the kids, she got little or nothing. So, she staged an event where she started beating up on him, and when he firmly grabbed her by both arms, and lifted her up, planted her on the kitchen table, and pointed his finger at her and said "stop this **#$##$", she responded as she had been trained. She called 911, accused her hubby of beating her, added a few self-inflicted bruises, and shaSamn - there were a half dozen cops out to his house, holding him down, hog tying him, and carrying him away for a little stay at jail. She filed a restraining order against him the next day, along with divorce papers, and demanded full custody of the kids, the house, all the money, and $3500 a month alimony and child support. Meanwhile, he played "super-dad" trying to be both Mom and Dad to the point where it hurt his job(s) (yes, the first, second, etc.). He went from an up and coming Regional Sales Manager, to a bum trying to keep any job, his house, his kids, food on the table, etc.).
Well, to make a short story long, he was behind the eight-ball from that point on. The courts backed her 100%, even though she left the kids repetitively. They spent most of what he'd stashed for his kids college fund(s) on divorce lawyers. The kids were messed up. Their beautiful little girl tripled in weight .. the other kids were good but still messed up. And mom "found herself", over and over again. It was all about "Mom's needs" from that point on.
Bottom line: I lost all trust for local law enforcement. It started back during the "child abuse" witch hunts in the 90's, but this and a few close-and-person experiences with friends who have been railroaded by politically correct law enforcement, forever changed the way I view the Justice system and cops in general.
SFS
OMG that's so absolutely awful....what a terrible thing.
A friend's girlfriend became pregnant in high school. He offered to marry her, but she declined. He did however, give up a full football scholarship to Alabama to stay in town, work full time, and support the baby. He and his parents naturally were devoted to the little girl even though the girlfriend had custody.
About 10 years later, the mother and daughter walked into a fire station. One of the firemen on duty saw them and freaked out. The little girl was the spitting image of his childhood photos. Apparently he too had "dated" my friend's girlfriend in high school. He just knew that was his daughter. He pursued it, had a paternity test done, petitioned the court for partial custody and won.
My friend and his parents were heartbroken. Their daughter, granddaughter was no longer allowed for weekend visits - it was as though they'd never existed in the child's life. He had given up all his dreams to support his child and that cold hearted witch just threw him away when she had a new source for child support.
Women can be treacherous.
I've heard of a similar event from a friend, with not exactly the same outcome, but where the husband was subjected to the most venal verbal abuse and threats and months later had these completely flipped 180 degrees to make him look like the bad guy, which if you knew him you'd understand was absurd.
Anyway, this guy finally got a new top-notch divorce lawyer, and his wife was proved to have committed perjury in sworn court filings, and witnesses to her plotting were located and subpoenas prepared.
The divorce was settled out of court, but my pal was put through hell for a year or more over the false charges. The only thing that saved him was getting the best lawyer he could afford (a young aggressive woman he called the Dragon Lady).
I lost my trust when a cop slept with my then 14 year old sister during a robbery investigation......after that, and noticing how they are always found at the local Wawa flirting with the 15 year old behind the counter.
Cops are weird.
To tell the truth, I think most cops are nothing morethan pedophiles with a badge.
You're not the only one.
This is FEMENISEM at it's finest.