Mine sure weren't...
This is really, really good advice. I'm not one of the mail-order bride posse, but marriage in North America is something you want to think LONG AND HARD about. A lot people really shouldn't get married, and suffer horribly as a consquence.
Bump for later reading.
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Good advice.
If you are a guy and thinkinking about marriage, DO NOT & I repeat DO NOT go to this web page!
http://www.nomarriage.com
People change. And even worse, sometimes they change back.
Very good list. I think I'll pass it out to my psych students.
Excellent article no matter which side of the Bridal Aisle you're on.
so do women, guys...so do women.....
about marriage:.......did you get anything out of the Reagan funeral?
to see two people grow old together and have that much devotion for one another thru the years.....amazing.....
I work with lots of people, many elderly, and I can tell you the happiest people are the ones that have long and loving marriages....
I look at other people our age.....sometimes they live more exciting lives....out to bars and parties....but none of them seem really happy and content....
happy and content will see you through a livetime.....
We come from a long line of "lovers" and longtime married people...on both sides of our family......
I just hope that my children can get thru the mucky-muck of our insane culture and see that true happiness and contentment comes from the committment to fall in love, and stay in love, with that one companion that shares your values.....
But I do feel sorry for young people today.....they are chasing shadows, and they don't even realize it....
just look at who our culture exults.....both male and female...and you can see how difficult it is for them to take the time to find a real companion to love......
Too late, I'm already there.
http://www.americanwomensuck.com
Read about horror stories from men who have been married or dated feminist american women.
Only if you marry a Republican woman sir.
...are not to be entered into lightly.
DUH! The rats have convinced too many people marriage is some sorta social soiree that you can taxi out of if you don't like one of the songs on it's radio.
Hitting a pothole doesn't mean it's time to ditch the car, it means it time to grab the asphalt and a shovel
And the same warnings should be issued to women, too. ;)
I think Vox Day also forgot one other thing:
Can she cook?
Why marry a woman if the man is the one going to have to cook all the time. Shoot I do that now, and if a wife isn't going to cook then what was the point in even marrying her?
Most of the girls I meet can't cook worth a damn.
Why get married? Just find someone you hate and give them a house.
Though this one is bogus,
1. Is she a woman of genuine faith? A woman who seriously believes that marriage is a sacrament – be she Christian, Jew or Muslim – will have a very different view of the institution and the commitment she is making than will a secular or casually religious woman. As for irreligious men, I see no purpose in marrying whatsoever – why put oneself at serious risk for a sacrament in which one does not believe? If you're marrying her simply because she demands it, don't be surprised when you're forced to accede to other, even less palatable demands, like a divorce.
You don't have to be religious to take marriage seriously and there is no evidence that Non-religious people are any more prone to divorce than religious people.
Actually Baptist (12%), Pentecostals(14%), Episcopalian/Anglican (12%) and Seventh Day Adventist (11%) all have higher divorce rates than people who have No religion(9%). The only Christians that have a lower divorce rate than people with No Religion are Born Agains(7%), Lutherans (7%)and Jehovah's Witnesses (6%)
Link Here (Large PDF warning!)on page 28
Good thing I knew this in the back of my head. I think I would be living a tragic marriage right now.
>>>2. Does she accept the notion of personal responsibility? A woman who is constantly blaming others for her problems in life will soon begin to see her husband as the source of all her problems. These women always blame whoever they are around the most instead of themselves – if she's constantly complaining about her coworkers or her family, don't even continue to date her. If you do, soon enough you'll discover that she has a new target at which to aim her barbs.
Issac Asimov was once asked about going into a career in writing.
He replied: "Going into a career in writing is like getting married, anyone who can be talked out of it should be!"