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Went through this 3 years ago when we put my mom (yes Altzheimers) in a home. The good news is that she adjusted well over time, and it becomes home to them. Once the routine settles in, it is actually easier on them as their basic needs, especially the physical ones that they can no longer accomplish are taken care of. Plus, if various meds are needed (my mom is on quite a few) there is professional nursing there to take care of this. There comes a point where you just can't do it all. After the initial guilt of having to place your loved one in a home subsides, then the realization that it was necessary kicks in, and nothing stops you from visiting your dad often and giving him family continuity that he is loved and not forgotten. Take him out for rides (my mom is 89, and I take her out frequently). Take him to family gatherings and parties. Take him on outings like picnics in the summer, over to your house for coffee/tea and/or cake/cookies, to get him out of the home, and back into a family setting periodically. Each time you go to visit, take him a little treat, some favorite thing he likes to eat or drink. I bring my mom chocolate milkshakes, and bakery goods. However, you will most likely be surprised as he settles in at the home, how he will begin to feel safe and secure there, and it too becomes a home. My sympathy for your feelings at this moment; been there, done that. But hang in there. It will all work out, you will see.