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I separated from my husband after several assaults, one involving, locking me in the house and loading and unloading his shotgun from a few feet away. I never sat with my back to a door at home, had lost 25 pounds, suffered from numerous bouts of IBS That took me completely out of commission for three days over and over and over again. The idea that my husband’s sins should result in my accepting not only destitution (he ended up with all property, vehicles, and bank accounts) but also the rest of my life without a partner....

Jesus came to fulfill the law of love, and never required one human being to pay with their earthly lives for the sins of another. I declined to be socially and psychologically imprisoned for life based on self-righteous legalistic interpretations of scripture. He was killing the person God created me to be, and just because the Bible doesn’t say attempted murder is justification for divorce does not justify the excuses for immoral, even deadly behavior on the part of a spouse!

Until you have looked at the end of a shotgun held by your spouse, and attempted reconciliation for more than six years as I slowly withered, stop playing, God and Judge of other people!

Yours was indeed a horrific situation and I’m sorry you endured so much suffering because of it.

I know some people who I never thought would have been involved in adultery and gone through divorce because of it and both partners have remarried.

My heart ALWAYS goes out to the wounded party in this case. So I don’t judge what one person decides to do after that. That is indeed between the person and God.

Ona different note, I always felt great sympathy for poor Leah, Jacob’s wife, who was stuck in worse than a loveless marriage. Her husband actually loved her sister whom he also married and was mad when he found out the day after the wedding that it was Leah. I cannot imagine the heartbreak she experienced.

FWIW, I don’t write these devotionals. I just post whatever happens to be the one for that day. On occasion, people have responded to me as if I was the author, and am not.