Posted on 03/27/2025 9:17:16 PM PDT by Morgana
Makes sense if they are trying to find a place to escape and get away from contemporary women, right?
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Men don’t get denigrated in churches. Biblical ones anyway. Men are encouraged to lead and be strong in churches. If they stand fast, the women will return too. Too many young women are buying the garbage culture right now. Hold strong, men!
When there are more women they say hey work on reaching men
When there are more men they say hey work on reaching women
Just preach the gospel and build the church. The Lord adds who He adds
It's a church, not a "dating pool."
Yes, you might find a good future spouse in a church. But that shouldn't be the reason for attending.
“...Makes sense if they are trying to find a place to escape and get away from contemporary women, right?...”
As ungodly and vile as the contemporary woman is today, it would make sense because they utterly despise the Presence of God and would never come near the place.
Correct! It shouldn't be the only reason.
But "no shade" on anyone for whom that is a reason, right?
Regards,
If a church has a poor "dating pool," you should shrug it off and keep attending.
You wouldn't stop going to your dentist or doctor because his waiting room has a poor "dating pool."
You wouldn't quit your job because the office has a poor "dating pool."
To quit an otherwise good church because of its poor "dating pool" treats church as less important.
But if you can switch to an otherwise equally acceptable (theologically) other church - that has a better dating pool: WHY NOT?
If dating were important to me, I would switch dentists, employers, etc. - provided I could find, without undue effort, an equal or better alternative with the added benefit of a superior dating pool.
Used to go to the last Mass at 5:30 p.m. on Sundays - dismal experience (excellent homilies, etc. - just extremely poorly attended, and abs. no one stayed around afterwards to chat, etc.). So I switched to the 10 a.m. Mass at the same church. World of difference!
Regards,
Trying to offer dating opportunities as a reason for going to church is akin to offering rock music and other "fun stuff" to encourage attendance. It diminishes the importance of what should be the main focus.
It's also one step away from trying to make the church more "relevant" by supporting BLM and LGBTQ+.
Right up there with more women attending college than men... real men that is.
Bkmk
Nonsense.
One does not socialize or attend small groups or volunteer for projects or make lifelong friends with occupants of a waiting room.
You choose churches based on the people because the church IS the people.
This is a healthy trend. The church needs men, and men need the church.
they’ll get more men when they stop catering to women ...
You are missing the point. “dating” is properly understood as a first step in finding a mate, presumably for life. Finding one who shares faith in God is important for future happiness. Dwelling with those who share your faith is spiritually healthy and increases chances of making a good choice. Where else does one do that except in a community of the faithful? Churches differ in their pieties and their memberships. If one is young and seeking a mate, it only makes sense to join a youthful congregation which also offers opportunities for fellowship in addition to worship. Nothing wrong with that and a lot that’s right.
I remember in the 1980s my wife was not feeling well and decided to stay home from church. So I got my two little girls up, go them dressed and we went to church. When I took them to Sunday School the teachers asked me about my wife and I told them she was not feeling well and stayed home.
THEY WERE SHOCKED that the man of the house (me) did not use it as an excuse to stay home as so many do.
A church filled with women in leadership positions is a dead church.
We have 3 women leaders in our mid- sized evangelical church. One for preschool, one teamed with a male seminary student for grade school, and one for ladies ministry. No female elders or deacans.
If course we have a female lead Secretary who runs everything, but that’s another story. ;-)
I was not implying that a church should ever do any of those things to "drum up" membership or boost attendance.
I merely said that - all other things (dogma / doctrine) being equal - I find it legitimate to switch parishes (I originally said "churches," but that word could be easily misconstrued).
For a person looking for better dating opportunities, a certain other parish might be a better "fit." I hear that some parishes actually offer something akin to a "Youth Ministry" or "Unmarried Adults Ministry."
Someone preferring the Latin Mass, a certain other parish might be the right choice.
Heck: People sometimes switch parishes in conjunction with a change of address!
Nothing wrong with that!
Regards,
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