I think you are quite correct, personal remembrances should be reserved for the wake.
I attended a Catholic funeral a couple years ago of a great aunt, and could not believe the grand kids talked longer than the priest. The funeral ended with a non-religious band playing a couple of her favorite tunes from years back.
Seriously, I was wondering if they were gonna pass out campaign and give the old girl a final toast.
I think today’s popular belief that a funeral is for the living, not the dead, has much to do with this.
I can top that, FRiend! I was at the funeral of a friend’s husband and the priest gave the eulogy including the fact that the deceased enjoyed dancing. The priest then began to dance around the coffin! I’m not making that up. I was next to a friend - a left-wing gay ex-Catholic and even HE grew purple with rage.