That's not what I'm saying at all. You've got it backwards.
Jesus did not came to save us so we wouldn't go to hell. He came to save us so we could go to heaven.
The distinction is a subtle one, but one that makes all the difference.
What you're saying is that we should marry the nice person so we don't have to marry the mean one. What we should be doing is marrying the nice person because we love her/him and want to spend our lives with her/him.
See the difference?
When we die, we can only go to one of two places --heaven or hell. By not choosing to love God, we are, by default choosing to not love Him. Because we choose to not love God, we are turning our back on Him. Because we have turned our back on Him, he has no choice but to leave us to our fate.
If we love God and accept His give through Jesus we show God that we want to live our eternity with Him. But, if we choose to not love Him, He has no choice but to let us go to hell because we have chosen to spend our eternal life with someone other than Him.