If there's no discernable reason for it - and that's key to your theology - we can only say it's arbitrary. Saying we can never understand it, it's way above us, etc. does not change this fact.
To take one chapter of Paul and make him a TULIP is proof-texting in the extreme. No doubt others have shown you scripture contradicting TULIP, so I won't.
I will say my view of man is more exalted than yours, but I think we would agree, there can be no less exalted view than yours. In your eyes God has created his most incredibly vile and horrible creature in man.
I also believe I have a more exalted view of God than yours.
What you describe God doing is still cruel and capricious. I can't see it otherwise; you disagree. You, I believe, say this view derrives from scripture; I disagree.
I've read all of Romans many times. I would ask you to read the whole of the Gospel prayerfully asking if the God there is the God you know.
But, I don't think either of our views are going to change soon. So, it may be that we're near the end of our discussion on this topic. If so, I do thank you for being courteous and for clearly communicating your very very wrong theology.
Just kidding.
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