I am intelligent enough to know that you cannot reconcile a loving God with your opinion that God simply decided who and who would not be saved and that there is nothing a man could do to change his destiny. No other Calvinist of your sort, even Edwin Palmer, has been able to do it.
All the Calvinist, at least your brand, can offer is "I don't know". If you don't know, you can't possibly know your opinion is true.
I have absolutely no problem reconciling a sovereign God with a man having a free will. It's really rather simple, but you are either too ignorant or blinded to the truth about it; that or stubborness.
Have a nice day.