See, the thing is, wives of priests don't really get a husband. Their husband belongs to the parish.
My own experience is this. I worked a lot of hours and we had a lot of kids. Because I was working a lot, we were able to afford a diaper service (pre- disposable diapers), a dishwasher, and if needed, some household help (cleaning ladies, mother's helpers, etc.) Wives of priests wouldn't get any of those benefits, because no matter how long her husband works, he's never going to earn a lot of money.
The permanent deacons I've met have older children. In truth, their wives have been on board with their vocation, but deacons don't have the same level of commitment to their parishes that priests do.
I really, really would like to hear from some of these wives of priests. I wonder how happily married they'd consider themselves?
About as happy as Protestant ministers' wives, some of whom are happy, and some of whom are not.
About as happy as the wives of dentists, some of whom are happy, and some of whom are not.