Have Anti-Father Family Court Policies Led to a Men's Marriage Strike?

GlennSacks.com ^ | 07/05/02 | Glenn Sacks and Dianna Thompson

[Clara Lou]

Have Anti-Father Family Court Policies Led to a Men's Marriage Strike?
Piffle. It's my observation that very few young men-- those in their teens or 20's-- give family court a single thought when they think about marriage. Men who have been around a while might--let's say those in their 30's on up-- think about what would happen if they married and then divorced. I think a good portion of them think about their wallet, not any yet-to-be-created children. (Please note: I did not use the word "all" in reference to men.)

[Larry Lucido]

Can you please delete post 9. I goofed up.

Oh, I don't know. I thought your post #9 summed up the issue quite nicely. :-)

[Zack Nguyen]

People also marry less today because casual, immoral sex has become the norm. Physically speaking, men get what they want, and women get a false feeling of intimacy. Both parties move on within a short period of time. By the time many of these folks reach their mid-30's they have had so many sexual partners that it makes it extremely difficult for a potential husband/wife to swallow the past his mate has lived.

If there was a reawakening of purity in our personal lives their would be more marriages.

[WaterDragon]

At #9...How did you do that, FreedomFriend! Awesome!

[John O]

The saddest thing about this is that it is getting more and more obvious to certain men that the only valid response to your wife asking for a causeless divorce is to kill her and try to get away with it. After all, in the divorce you lose everything and if you get caught you lose everything. The only way to win is to get away with the crime.

Don't the feminazis realize that there will be a whole lot of dead women due to their courtroom biases?

The more I read the harder I pray for Christ to return now and clean up the mess we've made of things. Even now Lord, even now.

God Save America (Please)

[FreedomFriend]

I do think that a large number of young women these days are rather selfish. Many will act as though they can do nothing wrong, and that you're the one that has the problem, all the while you've been a perfect gentleman.

This doesn't describe every young woman, and there are a few out there who are genuinely dignified, and who want a man that will lead.

My suggestion? If you're a Christian, attend a Christian Singles Praise & Worship within your respective city. At some of these gatherings, there are upwards of 1,500 single Christian women, so you have a good chance of meeting a good woman.

Similarly, the club scene, bar scene, etc. is not the place to meet a genuinely good woman. What kind of a good woman hangs out at places like that on a regular basis? I'm talking slim pickings. Those places are loaded with extremely liberal, sex maniac types who will most likely not respect you. Furthermore, a large percentage, perhaps a majority, of them have very little sense of morals and values. If your goal is to marry, why would anyone waste their time and money at grotesque places such as these?

[FreedomFriend]

Yes, Christ is the answer, but killing at the answer. It goes against what Jesus would have us to do.

[FreedomFriend]

but killing at the answer.=but killing ain't the answer.

[EBUCK]

The so-called "women's movement" is nothing more than a socialist front organization, attacking our most basic institutions....marriages and families.

It didn't seem to start out that way. The purpose of the original movement was to elevate women to equal status under the law. The movement succeeded but didn't die. They had to find other "causes" in order to keep their jobs and funding.

IMO. This is geared (un/intentionally) towards creating an undisclipined society that is easily lead by the only "father" left, the gubment.

EBUCK

[EBUCK]

Your story is no where near unique. That is the way it is all over our country.

It took me nearly a year and thousands of dollars to convince the court that I was the parent to which custody should be granted. During that year my ex disapeared (on drug binges or whetever the hell else struck her fancy) twice, once for 8 months straight!! She had no job, car, house or money yet the courts kept trying to give her custody. Her lawyer, after she defaulted on several payments, finally told me that if she had showed up to just 1 out of the 6 of the mediation sessions or had showed up in court just once she would have been granted custody because the female Judge (Judge Carrol Bispham, Linn County Oregon) is severely slanted in her decisions.

Here is link to some good info for those still mired in this crap.....Dads against Discrimination

EBUCK

[John O]

Yes, Christ is the answer, but killing isn't the answer. It goes against what Jesus would have us to do

That's why I said certain men. I could never do it as a Christian but I can very easily see a non-Christian seeing it as the only way to keep what he worked for. Prior to my salvation I probably would have reacted that way in fact. Thank God He changed me.

Until we make the laws equal for all (eliminating no-fault divorce would be a good start), elimination of the problem becomes the only way out for some men.

GSA(P)

[mykdsmom]

Thanks for the info EBUCK.....I will e-mail this link to my brother. He's pretty emotionally raw right now, it's only been about 4 months since he found all of this out.

I feel sick for my nieces and nephew more than anything, their world has been turned upside down. In my opinion this woman who is soon to be my ex-SIL and as far as our entire family knew was a wonderful person is truly evil and doesn't deserve to have custody of these kids. Unfortunately the court disagrees.

MKM

[WaterDragon]

I agree with you. The women's movement if did do well in getting the vote and property rights for women. Then the movement was highjacked the Leftist radicals, as so many things were in this country, in the sixties.

Historically, socialists have only been successful in gaining power according to successful they are in destabilizing a country's culture and economy. That's why the Left loves the radical homos....and insinuates them into our schools and churches.

[EBUCK]

I don't know how much you folks dislike that woman, and you may all know how much I hate the WOD but even the slightest hint of drug use from a LEO will tilt the scales in his favor, and quickly.

Fortunately I didn't have to resort to such methods, she did that all by herself, but a lot of custodial fathers have used such methods to keep their children. (I know, "for the chilluns" is tired, but when it comes to my house it is for the chilluns)

EBUCK

[gwynapnudd]

Marriage is a permanent, binding, legal contract that attempts to enforce a temporary, transitory, emotional state, love, with severe sanctions.

[Zack Nguyen]

There is really no need to be vulgar.

[Canticle_of_Deborah]

hahahahaha, is sex nothing more to you than a commodity?

Did I say that? My point was that women (or men) should not be sleeping with anyone who is just using them.

If you think the only thing a woman can offer to a marriage is sex, then you are sadly mistaken.

No, I don't think that, but a lot of men think women are simply to be used for sex. They see no reason to get married. I have been told that outright. This is what I've seen and experienced. I didn't say all men are like that but most of the ones I've met have been. This doesn't mean I think you and everyone else here are that way too and I certainly don't hate all men for it. I like men and I am happy being female, but I am not going to set myself up as a de facto prostitute for some of those guys out there, because that is exactly what they want. At least prostitutes get paid. Instead, I just don't go out much at all. I'm tired of being treated badly.

[Canticle_of_Deborah]

Take your blinders off and you might see that it can be a two way street

I don't have any blinders on and I never said it was a one way street. Please stop projecting your bad experiences on to me.

[Canticle_of_Deborah]

Anyone who equates marriage with a financial transaction in order to obtain sex shouldn't be getting married in the first place.

Did I say I did? It's about self-protection, not manipulation.