[Dr. Octagon]

While I definitively advocate systemic alterations indicated previously, I do respect the idea of pre-marital counseling. If romantic love can co-exist with realistic expectations, that would be constructive indeed. Thank you for an original and constructive addressing of the issue at hand.

[Dr. Octagon]

Does anyone else wish to address the topic?

[pcl]

A simple Meme needs to be spread:

The only person I can change is myself

or maybe one that aims at core values:

When I change myself, I change others and save the children.

[pcl]

I do respect the idea of pre-marital counseling

While I would not dismiss pre-marital counseling, I do think we need to go a bit further. We need pre-relationship counseling. There are a lot of relationships that never reach marriage but do produce children.