I HIGHLY recommend Christians purchase a copy of this manual for Church Discipline, by Dr Jay E Adams. the father of the modern Christian counseling movement:
Then have a talk with your pastors to regain what has been lost. This never should have happened.
Perhaps not, but it did.
And, UMC is not the first national church to split along homosexual lines.
And, it will not be the last.
Go back a little farther.
Read the Pastoral Manual of St Gregory.
https://www.newadvent.org/fathers/3601.htm