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My Children's Father
Townhall.com ^ | June 17, 2021 | Jackie Gingrich Cushman

Posted on 06/17/2021 6:05:48 AM PDT by Kaslin

In January 1995, I made a list of 18 attributes that described the type of man I wanted to marry. The list included "wants children," "high family ties -- loves his mother," "secure in themselves" and "social."

Three years later, I married such a man. A man who more than met the criteria, Jimmy Cushman.

I first knew that we would marry when he was helping me hang curtains in my house. Standing in front of a window, wearing jeans, hammer in hand, he was staring up, determining the next steps. In a flash, I knew that we would one day be married. Less than two years later, we were.

We have been blessed by God with two wonderful children, Maggie and Robert. It was only after we had had children that I realized how incredibly important he was, not only to me, but to our children. He is irreplaceable.

Maggie was born in respiratory distress and was whisked from the delivery room for breathing treatments. Jimmy followed her every step of the way to make sure that she was safe and being looked after.

My favorite picture from the hospital shows Jimmy seated in a chair. His head is bowed; he is sleeping, holding Maggie in his arms.

When Robert's arrival followed 22 months later, Jimmy was in the room when the doctor called for an emergency cesarean section. The umbilical cord was prolapsed, and our child would have died if he had been delivered normally. Jimmy's eyes grew large when he heard the news. He and my sister Kathy were then pushed aside as the medical staff rapidly rolled me on a gurney out of the room and down the hall to an operating room. A few minutes later, unsure of what was going to happen, I was put all the way under by the anesthesiologist. Hours later, when I awoke, I saw Jimmy in my room, giving me a thumbs-up. All was well with our child. I closed my eyes and went back to sleep.

My favorite picture from the hospital shows Jimmy seated in a chair. His head is bowed; he is sleeping, holding Robert in his arms.

Robert turns 20 this summer. As the years have gone by, the daily physical challenges of parenting have changed from dressing, feeding, bathing and entertaining to the daily mental challenges of challenging, inspiring, listening to and encouraging. This past year, both of our children were in college, in an extraordinary time, and we are transitioning to less frequent interaction, reminding ourselves that their job is to break away from us and become independent. It has become apparent to me, through all these phases, that I chose even better than I had thought at the time, and certainly better than I deserve.

A wonderful husband, Jimmy is also an incredible father: charming, funny and caring, with fine Southern manners.

Fathers provide an example to their daughters and sons of how they should expect to be treated by and to treat others. They provide stability as well as encouragement. My husband also provides a lot of the fun in the family, making jokes, laughing at himself and encouraging us all to have a little more fun in our lives.

The most important decision that many of us will make is whom to marry, with whom to share our time, our home and our lives. For those who are already parents, or who will go on to become parents, this decision is even more important and key to how those children will grow up and develop.

Who will help discipline them? Who will encourage them? Who will serve as an example to them?

Like most people, I have sometimes wondered whether a decision I made was the right one. Often, my decisions are shortsighted. Occasionally, they are wrong. But about my decision to marry Jimmy, the most important decision I have ever made, I have no doubt. I know that I made the right decision.

My list of attributes was but a prayer from my lips to God's ears. Luckily, God favored me and found the perfect man -- for me. We are blessed with two wonderful children and a loving family. I know that without his presence, personality and patience, the rest of the family would suffer. He provides the light and much of the fun in our lives -- all while grilling the best food in the world.

Happy Father's Day to the father of our children. You are a treasure beyond worth.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Editorial
KEYWORDS: fathersday

1 posted on 06/17/2021 6:05:48 AM PDT by Kaslin
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To: Kaslin

And the most important thing a father can do - take his child by the hand and leas them to Jesus. I have been richly blessed with such a man as have our children


2 posted on 06/17/2021 6:10:16 AM PDT by Mom MD ( )
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To: Kaslin

Decent...moral...strong...generous...kind...at least reasonably intelligent (not many rocket scientists out there)...


3 posted on 06/17/2021 6:15:23 AM PDT by Gay State Conservative (Trump: "They're After You. I'm Just In The Way")
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To: Mom MD

My brothers and sister and I were lucky enough to have a Dad with a heart as big as all outdoors. He did his best to walk the Christian path...as we’ve done.


4 posted on 06/17/2021 6:19:19 AM PDT by Gay State Conservative (Trump: "They're After You. I'm Just In The Way")
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To: Mom MD

You were lucky indeed.


5 posted on 06/17/2021 6:19:34 AM PDT by Kaslin (Joe Biden will never be my President, and neither will Kamala Harris)
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To: Kaslin

Nice


6 posted on 06/17/2021 6:21:15 AM PDT by bigfootbob
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To: Gay State Conservative

Bless you


7 posted on 06/17/2021 6:22:34 AM PDT by Mom MD ( )
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To: Kaslin

That reads like a love letter. Beautiful.


8 posted on 06/17/2021 6:22:50 AM PDT by BBQToadRibs2
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To: Kaslin

Thanks for sharing this. The descriptions remind me of my son, as a father. He is doing an amazing job.

It also makes me sad that I didn’t have a good father, nor did my children.


9 posted on 06/17/2021 6:36:06 AM PDT by NEMDF
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To: Kaslin

I could have written the same leetter.

My husband was very much the same - with our own children and his nephews who were left with revolving “fathers” and “boyfriends.”

We lost him last November.

Tell your loved ones how much they mean to you. Today. Do it Today. You can’t say it enough.


10 posted on 06/17/2021 6:44:09 AM PDT by Bon of Babble (Rigged Elections have Consequences)
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To: Kaslin

Jackie Gingrich Cushman

Strange middle name


11 posted on 06/17/2021 7:07:05 AM PDT by Pollard
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To: Pollard

Strange middle name

-——doesn’t matter to the subject, let it go....

Was a great and tender, and hopeful, essay. Not everyone gets a good father, (I didn’t), and role model.
My father was average at best, not stupid, was hardworking, and went downhill to become a pedo grandfather in a church circle of pedos.
In my family, my youngest brother John and i always ask, What would he (Al) do? And do the opposite. My brother John is one best Father & Grandfather.

The phrase “Our Father” is reserved for use only in the Lord’s Prayer.


12 posted on 06/17/2021 7:40:29 AM PDT by drSteve78 (Je suis deplorable. WE'RE NOT GOING TO TAKE IT ANYMORE)
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To: Pollard

Is this Newt’s daughter?


13 posted on 06/17/2021 7:43:17 AM PDT by Seajay (Ordem e Progresso)
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To: Mom MD

Amen. If a man does that, the rest will follow.


14 posted on 06/17/2021 7:50:26 AM PDT by vpintheak (Live free, or die!)
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To: Seajay

Yes, she IS Newt’s daughter. And a wonderful person, I might add.


15 posted on 06/17/2021 9:09:17 AM PDT by Freedom_Isn't_Free (in fact, it isn't even cheap)
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To: Kaslin

If you find somebody too social they need to be social with everybody. And when you are social with everybody, temptations come with it. So I wouldn’t necessarily consider that a strong attribute.


16 posted on 06/17/2021 9:28:25 AM PDT by skinndogNN
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To: Trillian

ping


17 posted on 06/17/2021 11:26:44 AM PDT by Conservative4Life (But he that sinneth against me wrongeth his own soul: all they that hate me love death:Proverbs 8:36)
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To: Mrs. Warrior

Ping! You’ll like this essay.


18 posted on 06/17/2021 4:04:19 PM PDT by Albion Wilde (God’s will is no concern of this Congress. —Jerry Nadler, 2021)
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To: Kaslin

What a wonderful tribute.


19 posted on 06/18/2021 3:45:42 PM PDT by SE Mom (Screaming Eagle mom)
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