Once you join the 20% of men to whom a lot of women seek to attach themselves - your chivalric concept that this is a one-way street will crumble.
This is not something men do TO women - it's a much more complicated dance. Men want the most - women want the best - and for men of David Petraeus' standing, it is unnecessary to attach [himself] to women, "using his position" - all the women any man could ever handle just come WITH the position.
Most men, certainly most married men, don't take what's on offer - but the idea that it's some sort of exploitation or even a form of aggression is just wrong.
Check out the stampede of 9s and 10s charging up Capitol Hill after graduation to take up all the gofer and intern positions - same thing. Congressmen who take the view that the job is "money for nothing, chicks for free" are absolutely correct.
I'm not saying they should be taking it - but they certainly don't have to do any heavy lifting to get it.
I don’t disagree. I recall the women around Henry Kissinger.