I like your thinking.
There are a lot of folks that think there is only one manual, and one way to ride that bicycle.
I agree with you more—but I never liked reading manuals.
The difficulty is that in order to grow you must become “whole” in your masculine and feminine consciousness. This is why Paul stated that it is better to remain single as you go within and find bother to become “whole.” Love is the glue that connects to each aspect of consciousness and stabilize the soul. Love is the glue that holds the soul together.
However, it is ok to marry. If you do the two souls combine in the eyes of God and become “One.” The two souls are held together with Love which allows both of them combined to grow closer to God.
However, it is as though one is the left leg and the spouse is the right leg. They use each other’s souls to stand up. Problem is, when your partner dies your soul has a huge vacancy and you fall over. This is what causes the depression after the loss of a loved one.
I was presenting at a psychology conference and a woman in her 70’s volunteered for a demonstration. I walked back and touched her soul from about 10 feet from her physical body. Her body began swinging wildly in circles. I stopped and explained that when this happens, usually a person has lost a loved one and they haven’t gone through the grieving process.
She replied, “My husband died two weeks ago.”
Two souls are like a catamaran on the turmoil of the ocean, stabilizing each other. When one dies, they become like a canoe or kayak getting tossed around. The most destabilized are those who are still searching for their catamaran partner and have not yet found balance within themselves.