Skip to comments.The Mystery of the Missing Husbands
Posted on 09/10/2019 12:31:06 PM PDT by RomanSoldier19
A startling number of young women are unable to find a spouse, and new research from a group of economists suggests their would-be partners are just not up to snuff.
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LOL, reminds me of the movie “Diner” with Steve Gutenberg making his fiancée pass a football quiz before they got married.
I think the key was in her next line....
"Now Im a doormat to my dog. Im sensing a pattern here."
I believe I know what the problem is here because I have it too. People consider me a "nice person," but it's because I always give in, even when any normal person watching from afar would be aghast that I caved.
No matter how cruel / screaming / nasty someone is to me, the next day I am like, "Huh? Yesterday? What are you talking about? .... Oh, you mean THAT? Pshaw! Never mind. I behaved badly too."
I'm certain there's a way to be a person who is both "nice" and "sticks up for themselves" simultaneously, but it doesn't seem to be in my genes.
The person who diagnosed DivineMoment's problem as merely being "only dating guys who are jerks" is wrong. Her problem is that she hasn't dated someone who has a doormat the same size as hers +/- 20% so that they can treat each other equally. If I was to write out of my life all the people I've ever cared for deeply (since I was an adult), who were jerks to me by making me a doormat via some act of physical confrontation (shoving, knocking me down, throwing hard objects at, etc) that I didn't retaliate against in kind, then I would truly be a lonely person, for there would only be 1 or 2 people left.
Yes, of course if someone wipes their feet on my doormat too many times, I eventually distance them out of my lives. So it's fortunate for me that virtually all family members who did this to me, have done it at most once or twice since I became an adult.
Even the very best people can wind up extremely frustrated with someone - whom they care for very much - for an instant, and if that 2nd person is one they know is a doormat, basic animal instinct can take over for a fleeting moment, and a physically abusive move can be made.
DivineMoments - if I have completely mis-psychoanalyzed you based on a handful of words that sounded to me like a parallel to my own experience, then I apologize.
"He loves his damned old rodeo as much as he loves me. Someday soon, goin' with him, someday soon" - Sung by (not written by) Judy Collins
There may not be such a social stigma to single motherhood anymore but for a whole helluva lot of guys...especially ones who do not have kids and who are looking for the right girl to marry, her having somebody else's kid rules her out immediately. I had no interest in raising another man's child.
What, then, is causing the “mismatch” in which unmarried men would need to be 55 percent wealthier, 26 percent more employed, and 18 percent more educated in order to properly match with today’s bachelorettes? The answer is both an oversupply of low-achieving men and an oversupply of high-achieving women.
What a load!
Society has taught the women that EVERY Male is not good enough for them. And even if they find the best catch they could get these perfect female specimens will put their mates through a financial and personal hell on earth. I know 2 men that had to sell the homes they had because their spouses put them each 30k in credit card debt.
These women are suppose to be the man’s prize but just go out and look at them. Many are big and ugly enough to eat hay and shit in the streets! My only thought when I look at these female losers is “buddy, you are not really fu$king that are u?”
My advice to younger men is to stay single, enjoy your friends and let this generation of self serving women die out. Don’t feed their need to procreate at your expense.
Also read the book “THE PREDATORY FEMALE” by Rev Lawrence Shannon if u can find a copy. It could be that most of them have been destroyed.
My observations have been a little different. Once they hit the wall only then are they ready to settle for the kinds of guys they turned down in their 20s....the kind who were getting their education, getting set up in their careers etc. But by then with both of them 30-35 the guys are now gunning for women in their mid to late 20s and they have a shot at them since they're set up in their careers. They're no longer interested in the women their age both because their youth is gone but also because they know those women don't really want them and think they'd be settling and nobody wants to be settled for.
Why the hell should you not fly?
Don’t pregnant married women (and pregnant unmarried women) fly all the time?
Military or civilian, all pilots get down time and days off.
Just don’t see the problem with you being a pilot.
Set your sites a little higher, look for a guy who isn’t intimidated by smart, tough, professional women.
I’m taken (for the last 42 years), but I am pretty sure there are others out there.
I went and got my first driver's license at 21, but only because I really, REALLY wanted to spend my off hours during my 2nd summer as a Park Ranger at Grand Teton NP in my family's canoe. But try as I might, I just couldn't picture myself standing by the side of the road with a canoe next to me, trying to hitch a ride. :-) (I went out on a limb and bought a $300 van two days before my driving test, which was in turn one day before I had to leave for another Wyoming summer.)
I went on my first date at 26 ... she dumped me and broke my heart something awful after 12-15 dates when I hadn't yet made a move on her other than nice warm hugs at the end of each date. I'd always heard my entire life that guys were all looking for sex without commitment, while the girls were all looking for the ring. WRONG! The first 8 women I dated all dumped me when they figured out I was looking for sex AFTER the wedding. Worse, these were all dedicated Christian women.
So I ended up marrying when I was almost 29, and had a marriage that consisted of 1 month of happiness, 2 months of hot hell, 3 months of cold hell, and then she filed for divorce when her thoroughly evil mother did a factory recall on the marriage. Three years later I found & married the woman I am still married to 32+ years later! The physical abuse I received in the first pseudo-marriage, the bruises and the bleeding, to say nothing of the emotional abuse, were actually blessings in the long run. Because at the worst times in my REAL marriage, I can vividly remember those old moments and turn my current anger into, "Wow! I am *so* lucky I found this one, compared to the first one! I think this one might even look upon me as a 'keeper'. :-)"
I am still gobsmacked at how amazingly short a time it took for the Cultural Engines of the 60s and 70s - the movies & the TV & the music - to transform my generation - as seen in these Before versus After song lyrics - from being ---
"This love we're contemplating is worth the pain of waiting, we'll only end up hating this child we may be creating. Love child...."
"We fell asleep, our goose is cooked, our reputation's shot, wake up little Suzy..."
to instead become this:
"Why don't we do it in the road? No one will be watching us. Why don't we do it in the road?...."
"Don't you think there's a place for youuuuuuu, in between the sheeeeeets?"
Just kiddin'! :-)
The first, third & fifth ones are from the Trondheim region, right? I don't recognize the pattern that the identical twins are wearing.
A speaker at a PK stadium event once told how he had spent years working for a large church as the visitation pastor for hospitals and shut-ins.
He said he'd been at the death beds of hundreds of men. Some had major regrets. Some didn't.
But he said that not once in all those years did he hear a man on his death bed express regrets that he hadn't put more effort into his career.
"My Daddy said son, you better see the world.
I wouldn't blame you if you wanted to leave.
But remember one thing, don't lose your head ....
To a woman that'll spend your bread"
- Rod Steward
“According to a recent study, 90% of all divorces are initiated by college-educated women.”
If accurate that is a damning statistic.
“their would-be partners are just not up to snuff”
Pretty much describes why young men walk away; why bother? They’ll never be “up to snuff”.
I’ve posted for years that the demographic nightmare resulting from this trend is happening much more quickly than the media will ever admit; schoolyards are filled with foreign children.
Wow, a man who defends getting married is now puswhip?
As I said you MGTOW are all poison and now I want to add losers.
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