Absolutely true, absolutely stunning, and somehow just as you always knew.
News Flash: babies need their mothers. Their mothers.
Posted on 08/07/2018 11:29:05 AM PDT by fwdude
A leading psychotherapist in New York City in the last 25 years has warned that mothers who return to work too soon after having babies are damaging their children’s mental health.
In a video for the New York Post, Erica Komisar revealed how she’s seen an ‘epidemic level of mental disorders in very young children,’ which she puts down to the “devaluing of mothering in society.”
The author of Being There, Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters explained that babies experience a rush of cortisol and a great deal of stress when they’re away from their mothers.
She argued that when working women return from work in the evenings they spend as little as 90 minutes with their babies before they put them to bed — and then find that they are unable to sleep through the night because they’re craving their mothers’ attention.
“Our society tells women go back to work, do what you want, they’ll be ok,” she explained. “But they’re not OK.”
“I was seeing it in my parent guidance practice. I was actually seeing an epidemic level of mental disorders in very young children who were being diagnosed and medicated at an earlier and earlier age.”
“I started looking at the research which backed up what I was seeing in my practice, which is that the absence of mothers on a daily basis in children’s lives was impacting their mental health.”
Referencing research that’s been done since the ‘60s, she said the only thing that reduces stress for babies is when their mothers return from work.
“I still say daycare is my least favorite option,” she said. “You’re taking a very young baby and exposing them to a great deal of stimulation and a great deal of fear.”
“When you take them out of their immediate environment and put them in a group with a lot of stimulation and a lot of people that’s not the natural environment for babies.”
“When we give mothers the option of being home in the first three years we increase the emotional security and reduce mental disorders.”
“On a societal level we need to recognize mothers’ work is valuable work. We emphasize material success and professional achievement, but there is no more valuable or more important work.”
Even though there is a high appreciation of mothers’ work in the homeschool movement, the voice of Erica Komisar, who is a psychotherapist outside the homeschool movement, reinforces the value of mothers’ presence in the lives of their children in their early childhood. She is a voice from the secular world confirming the same warnings that Christian homeschool leaders as Mary Pride have given for decades.
With information from DailyMail.
We were fortunate at the time (20 years ago) the wifes company would let the new mothers stay out (unpaid) 6 months - it was great.
The dubious source is noted. But even a stopped clock....
I couldn’t agree more and have since the mid-70s when all my friends went to work and put their kids in daycare. I did w/o new cars, new houses, cute clothes, all the new inventions to stay home with my kids.
Great letter!
Dr. Laura used to be on the radio in our area, but hasn’t been for a while. Its a shame. She used a line (from her grandfather, as I recall) that I still use with my own daughters. “Men will not do, what women don’t allow.”
My wife could have gone back to a (multiple) six figure career and we could have kept an S class and range Rover in the garage, early retirement and lived even better than we do.
Instead we have polite, smart, loving, and well adjusted offspring and there is nothing we would trade that for.
I do not believe this is intended to encourage women to quit working outside the home. I see this as a push to demand paid maternity leave for as long as one year, made mandatory for all employers.
Wait for it.
I know mothers worked when I was growing up in the 60’s and 70’s but was not aware of even the concept of “daycare” back then. Perhaps tighter family bonds were resourced for childcare, or people just stayed married with one breadwinner in the house, despite their differences.
Daycare seems like a relatively very recent invention.
Bless you, sir.
I think of all the little kids at home watching “Criminal MInds” instead of making friends. Do they grow up to join Antifa?
Absolutely true, absolutely stunning, and somehow just as you always knew.
News Flash: babies need their mothers. Their mothers.
Will the Banshees start howling about this? Or will they just ignore it and hope the dumbass public doesn’t find out about it?
Absolutely untrue. Please. You don't know what you're talking about this time.
The plea is for MOTHERS. Better yet, MOTHERING. Mothering the verb.
What they call "Quality Time," but LARGE QUANTITIES of it.
It's kids who never got a chance OVER TIME, in the first three years of their lives, to bond with their mothers, that end up "needing" the g- d- pharmaceuticals.
I realize I'm raving, but there is nothing I am more certain of: mother-deprivation is the beginning of the end of the world.
Totally false, her argument is Anti-drugging and treats it as a poor substitute for maternal care.
As you know -— but I’ve got to say it -—That’s not mothering.
Half the shrinks that are practicing, are, at the same time offering “advice” to others, seeing shrinks themselves for their own mental problems.
The object of schools now is to diagnose children with “something”. It’s all about the money.
Ummm....no.
When you turn your kids over to “the system” at an early age, you have zero clue as to what they are being taught. People with ulterior motives, whether they be pedophiles, leftists or antifa-ish types, gravitate towards children to corrupt their young minds and lie to the parents. I trust no one with my kids. NO ONE!
When these people get a hold of your kids, how could the kids NOT turn out psycho?
Too many single moms.
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