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Gay activists claim redefining marriage won’t hurt anyone, but that’s a lie. Just ask Canadians.
LifeSiteNews ^ | 5/1/15 | Dawn Stefanowicz

Posted on 05/01/2015 1:05:09 PM PDT by wagglebee

May 1, 2015 (ThePublicDiscourse.com) -- I am one of six adult children of gay parents who recently filed amicus briefs with the US Supreme Court, asking the Court to respect the authority of citizens to keep the original definition of marriage: a union between one man and one woman to the exclusion of all others, so that children may know and may be raised by their biological parents. I also live in Canada, where same-sex marriage was federally mandated in 2005.

I am the daughter of a gay father who died of AIDS. I described my experiences in my book: Out From Under: The Impact of Homosexual Parenting. Over fifty adult children who were raised by LGBT parents have communicated with me and share my concerns about same-sex marriage and parenting. Many of us struggle with our own sexuality and sense of gender because of the influences in our household environments growing up.

We have great compassion for people who struggle with their sexuality and gender identity—not animosity. And we love our parents. Yet, when we go public with our stories, we often face ostracism, silencing, and threats.

I want to warn America to expect severe erosion of First Amendment freedoms if the US Supreme Court mandates same-sex marriage. The consequences have played out in Canada for ten years now, and they are truly Orwellian in nature and scope.

Canada’s Lessons

In Canada, freedoms of speech, press, religion, and association have suffered greatly due to government pressure. The debate over same-sex marriage that is taking place in the United States could not legally exist in Canada today. Because of legal restrictions on speech, if you say or write anything considered “homophobic” (including, by definition, anything questioning same-sex marriage), you could face discipline, termination of employment, or prosecution by the government.

Why do police prosecute speech under the guise of eliminating “hate speech” when there are existing legal remedies and criminal protections against slander, defamation, threats, and assault that equally apply to all Americans? Hate-crime-like policies using the terms “sexual orientation” and “gender identity” create unequal protections in law, whereby protected groups receive more legal protection than other groups.

Having witnessed how mob hysteria in Indiana caused the legislature to back-track on a Religious Freedom Restoration Act, many Americans are beginning to understand that some activists on the Left want to usher in state control over every institution and freedom. In this scheme, personal autonomy and freedom of expression become nothing more than pipe dreams, and children become commodified.

Children are not commodities that can be justifiably severed from their natural parentage and traded between unrelated adults. Children in same-sex households will often deny their grief and pretend they don’t miss a biological parent, feeling pressured to speak positively due to the politics surrounding LGBT households. However, when children lose either of their biological parents because of death, divorce, adoption, or artificial reproductive technology, they experience a painful void. It is the same for us when our gay parent brings his or her same-sex partner(s) into our lives. Their partner(s) can never replace our missing biological parent.

The State as Ultimate Arbiter of Parenthood

Over and over, we are told that “permitting same-sex couples access to the designation of marriage will not deprive anyone of any rights.” That is a lie.

When same-sex marriage was legalized in Canada in 2005, parenting was immediately redefined. Canada’s gay marriage law, Bill C-38, included a provision to erase the term “natural parent” and replace it across the board with gender-neutral “legal parent” in federal law. Now all children only have “legal parents,” as defined by the state. By legally erasing biological parenthood in this way, the state ignores children’s foremost right: their immutable, intrinsic yearning to know and be raised by their own biological parents.

Mothers and fathers bring unique and complementary gifts to their children. Contrary to the logic of same-sex marriage, the gender of parents matters for the healthy development of children. We know, for example, that the majority of incarcerated men did not have their fathers in the home. Fathers by their nature secure identity, instill direction, provide discipline, boundaries, and risk-taking adventures, and set lifelong examples for children. But fathers cannot nurture children in the womb or give birth to and breast-feed babies. Mothers nurture children in unique and beneficial ways that cannot be duplicated by fathers.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that men and women are anatomically, biologically, physiologically, psychologically, hormonally, and neurologically different from each other. These unique differences provide lifelong benefits to children that cannot be duplicated by same-gender “legal” parents acting out different gender roles or attempting to substitute for the missing male or female role model in the home.

In effect, same-sex marriage not only deprives children of their own rights to natural parentage, it gives the state the power to override the autonomy of biological parents, which means parental rights are usurped by the government.

Hate Tribunals Are Coming

In Canada, it is considered discriminatory to say that marriage is between a man and a woman or that every child should know and be raised by his or her biological married parents. It is not just politically incorrect in Canada to say so; you can be saddled with tens of thousands of dollars in legal fees, fined, and forced to take sensitivity training.

Anyone who is offended by something you have said or written can make a complaint to the Human Rights Commissions and Tribunals. In Canada, these organizations police speech, penalizing citizens for any expression deemed in opposition to particular sexual behaviors or protected groups identified under “sexual orientation.” It takes only one complaint against a person to be brought before the tribunal, costing the defendant tens of thousands of dollars in legal fees. The commissions have the power to enter private residences and remove all items pertinent to their investigations, checking for hate speech.

The plaintiff making the complaint has his legal fees completely paid for by the government. Not so the defendant. Even if the defendant is found innocent, he cannot recover his legal costs. If he is found guilty, he must pay fines to the person(s) who brought forth the complaint.

If your beliefs, values, and political opinions are different from the state’s, you risk losing your professional license, job, or business, and even your children. Look no further than the Lev Tahor Sect, an Orthodox Jewish sect. Many members, who had been involved in a bitter custody battle with child protection services, began leaving Chatham, Ontario, for Guatemala in March 2014, to escape prosecution for their religious faith, which conflicted with the Province’s guidelines for religious education. Of the two hundred sect members, only half a dozen families remain in Chatham.

Parents can expect state interference when it comes to moral values, parenting, and education—and not just in school. The state has access into your home to supervise you as the parent, to judge your suitability. And if the state doesn’t like what you are teaching your children, the state will attempt to remove them from your home.

Teachers cannot make comments in their social networks, write letters to editors, publicly debate, or vote according to their own conscience on their own time. They can be disciplined or lose any chance of tenure. They can be required at a bureaucrat’s whim to take re-education classes or sensitivity training, or be fired for thinking politically incorrect thoughts.

When same-sex marriage was created in Canada, gender-neutral language became legally mandated. Newspeak proclaims that it is discriminatory to assume a human being is male or female, or heterosexual. So, to be inclusive, special non-gender-specific language is being used in media, government, workplaces, and especially schools to avoid appearing ignorant, homophobic, or discriminatory. A special curriculum is being used in many schools to teach students how to use proper gender-neutral language. Unbeknownst to many parents, use of gender terms to describe husband and wife, father and mother, Mother’s Day and Father’s Day, and “he” and “she” is being steadily eradicated in Canadian schools.

Which Is More Important: Sexual Autonomy or the First Amendment?

Recently, an American professor who was anonymously interviewed for the American Conservative questioned whether sexual autonomy is going to cost you your freedoms: “We are now at the point, he said, at which it is legitimate to ask if sexual autonomy is more important than the First Amendment?”

Under the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms, Canadian citizens were supposed to have been guaranteed: (1) freedom of conscience and religion; (2) freedom of thought, belief, opinion, and expression, including freedom of the press and other media of communication; (3) freedom of peaceful assembly; and (4) freedom of association. In reality, all of these freedoms have been curtailed with the legalization of same-sex marriage.

Wedding planners, rental halls, bed and breakfast owners, florists, photographers, and bakers have already seen their freedoms eroded, conscience rights ignored, and religious freedoms trampled in Canada. But this is not just about the wedding industry. Anybody who owns a business may not legally permit his or her conscience to inform business practices or decisions if those decisions are not in line with the tribunals’ decisions and the government’s sexual orientation and gender identity non-discrimination laws. In the end, this means that the state basically dictates whether and how citizens may express themselves.

Freedom to assemble and speak freely about man-woman marriage, family, and sexuality is now restricted. Most faith communities have become “politically correct” to avoid fines and loss of charitable status. Canadian media are restricted by the Canadian Radio, Television, and Telecommunications Commission (CRTC), which is similar to the FCC. If the media air anything considered discriminatory, broadcasting licenses can be revoked, and “human rights bodies” can charge fines and restrict future airings.

An example of legally curtailed speech regarding homosexuality in Canada involves the case of Bill Whatcott, who was arrested for hate speech in April 2014 after distributing pamphlets that were critical of homosexuality. Whether or not you agree with what he says, you should be aghast at this state-sanctioned gagging. Books, DVDs, and other materials can also be confiscated at the Canadian border if the materials are deemed “hateful.”

Americans need to prepare for the same sort of surveillance-society in America if the Supreme Court rules to ban marriage as a male-female institution. It means that no matter what you believe, the government will be free to regulate your speech, your writing, your associations, and whether or not you may express your conscience. Americans also need to understand that the endgame for some in the LGBT rights movement involves centralized state power—and the end of First Amendment freedoms.


TOPICS: Canada; Culture/Society; Government; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: ac; gays; homosexualagenda; moralabsolutes; persecution; samesexmarriage
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To: wagglebee

It’s hard get a feel for what Americans even think of the obvioius attacks on true liberty. Regarding the question of whether or not wedding vendors should be forced to take part in gay weddings, I’ve seen polls showing drastically different results, with the more recent ones being worrisome. Is it the wording, or is that more and more people are accepting the far left narrative that these small business people are ‘haters’ who should either conform, or be destroyed?


21 posted on 05/01/2015 1:48:05 PM PDT by Aetius
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To: wagglebee

The wave of purges in our naval and military command structures give me great pause that come another war we are really going to be...up against it.


22 posted on 05/01/2015 1:52:10 PM PDT by onedoug
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To: wagglebee

Anyone who thinks that none of this can happen in the USA needs to talk to the Oregon bakers who were fined $135,000 for refusing to bake a cake for a gay wedding. That award, handed down by a bigoted, hate-inspired bully named Alan McCullough, is an example of what lies ahead if gay marriage becomes the law of the land.


23 posted on 05/01/2015 1:54:46 PM PDT by Steve_Seattle
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To: wagglebee

Attention Libertarians...you may think that surrendering the social issues won’t have consequences to Liberty but the homonazis don’t care about Liberty


24 posted on 05/01/2015 1:55:49 PM PDT by RginTN
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To: Aetius
"Is it the wording, or is that more and more people are accepting the far left narrative that these small business people are ‘haters’ who should either conform, or be destroyed?"

I think it is the wording. If a poll asked the question, "Do you think a fine of $135,000 is a proper or rational penalty for a Christian baker who refuses to bake a cake for a gay wedding?", I think a significant proportion of responders would say, "No." But if you say, "Should businesses be allowed to discriminate against gays?", a majority might also say, "No."
25 posted on 05/01/2015 1:58:09 PM PDT by Steve_Seattle
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To: Steve_Seattle

I’m sure some of them honestly believe these rulings won’t be used as a means of oppression.

But there are far more, and it only takes a few, that are looking forward to doing some oppressing.


26 posted on 05/01/2015 1:58:39 PM PDT by MrB (The difference between a Humanist and a Satanist - the latter admits whom he's working for)
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To: wagglebee

Canada’s “Free Dominion” apparently website still operating.


27 posted on 05/01/2015 2:11:20 PM PDT by onedoug
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To: onedoug

It will be a revolt.


28 posted on 05/01/2015 2:16:09 PM PDT by Biggirl ("One Lord, one faith, one baptism" - Ephesians 4:5)
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To: manc

Look for more of this to come.

http://www.thesmokinggun.com/documents/crime/guilty-plea-in-vegas-pool-sex-attack-908743


29 posted on 05/01/2015 2:27:30 PM PDT by dragonblustar (Philippians 2:10)
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To: manc
They [homosexuals] said that and then it was civil unions, then marriage, then adoption, then teach it in the schools, now they want the founding of the country and the 1st amendment to be ignored.

I hope the government stops this escalation before they make homosexual relationships mandatory.


30 posted on 05/01/2015 2:45:07 PM PDT by Iron Munro (Oh, yeah. A voluntary internal aWe may be paranoid but that doesn't mean they aren't really after us)
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To: wagglebee

Ya,

Canada has ruled that Biblical speech opposing homosexual behavior, including in written form, is essentially a hate crime. [This would include the Bible.]

http://christiannews.net/2013/02/28/canadian-supreme-court-rules-biblical-speech-opposing-homosexual-behavior-is-a-hate-crime/


31 posted on 05/01/2015 3:02:32 PM PDT by ForYourChildren (Christian Education [ RomanRoadsMedia.com - a Classical Christian Approach to Homeschool ])
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To: wagglebee; All
MUST-READ BUMP
32 posted on 05/01/2015 3:25:15 PM PDT by Pajamajan ( Pray for our nation. Thank the Lord for everything you have. Don't wait. Do it today.)
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To: wagglebee

It will hurt society. A deviant sex act is not the basis or life or for an enlightened society.


33 posted on 05/01/2015 3:37:06 PM PDT by TalBlack (Evil doesn't have a day job...)
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To: E. Pluribus Unum

Microsoft is simply practicing big business—the rats are practicing oppression.


34 posted on 05/01/2015 3:52:18 PM PDT by SgtHooper (Anyone who remembers the 60's, wasn't there!)
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To: wagglebee
Redefine marriage: DEFILE ALL SOCIETY

Their purpose is to seek approval and pay forward the trauma that initially caused them to become sexually confused.

We will continue to humor their mental illness rather than heal it. In this sick society, WE APPEASE DISEASE.

35 posted on 05/01/2015 3:52:36 PM PDT by conservativeimage (Own your challenges without blaming others for them. Bide your time and hold out hope.)
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To: Steve_Seattle
That's why I don't get why the left thinks that these "human rights commissions" are just peachy.

Do they not understand that if in the future some right-wing government came into power, that these tribunals will be used against THEM?

History repeats itself, but nobody learns.

36 posted on 05/01/2015 4:56:31 PM PDT by boop (Hey, stoop, that's got gears. It ain't no Ford.)
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To: wagglebee
They need to remember that God is in charge and still playing by his rules.

Genesis 1

English Standard Version (ESV)

26 Then God said, “Let us make man[h] in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over the livestock and over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.”

27 So God created man in his own image,
    in the image of God he created him;
    male and female he created them.

28 And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” 29 And God said, “Behold, I have given you every plant yielding seed that is on the face of all the earth, and every tree with seed in its fruit. You shall have them for food. 30 And to every beast of the earth and to every bird of the heavens and to everything that creeps on the earth, everything that has the breath of life, I have given every green plant for food.” And it was so. 31 And God saw everything that he had made, and behold, it was very good. And there was evening and there was morning, the sixth day.


37 posted on 05/01/2015 5:18:27 PM PDT by Salvation ("With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26)
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To: wagglebee
Please Pray This Week for Traditional Marriage – The Supreme Court Is in Session
38 posted on 05/01/2015 5:19:28 PM PDT by Salvation ("With God all things are possible." Matthew 19:26)
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To: wagglebee
gay parents...same-sex marriage.

(I think she mean queer parents...and faggots mocking marriage)

39 posted on 05/01/2015 5:26:23 PM PDT by ROCKLOBSTER (Celebrate "Republicans Freed the Slaves Month")
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To: TBP

ping


40 posted on 05/02/2015 5:50:48 AM PDT by knarf
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